Does anyone hate being female?

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I don't hate myself for being me but it seems whenever I'm around anyone, I'd be happier male. This could be due to "cultural" perception and other issues I have so I don't pretend to be right or know how a man or woman feels toward me authentically.

It just seems, I feel more judged by both men and women whenever it comes to issues of philosophy or historical relevance. On forums it's much easier since on many of them, I can hide my gender and country and get a more solitude attitude. Not exactly sure how to word this and I'm not blaming it solely on my gender, but I can help but hear the word feminist and other female related words to simulate my nastiness of being of the female gender.

Sorry but I feel like I have to vent and I'm getting so sick of the tabs and labels.

I hate being female. Some days more than others, but most days I'd rather be male, or no gender.

If it's any consolation, MissC, I hated being a boy. I was too short and too skinny. I was clumsy and couldn't play ANY sports. I was set upon by bullies, and couldn't put up a decent fight. I wished I was a girl because of my physical size. But I left that behind in Uni, where the whole masculine size thing got left behind (mostly). Which is to say I was a boy, but didn't think like the other boys and didn't feel what they felt. They talked about sports and sports heroes and I had no clue what they were going on about. I went through many years in school being tortured by boys and girls calling me a fag. Being interested in theater arts didn't help a bit.

Having waited over 40 years for the privilege, I can unequivocally say that I totally love it.

I only wish that I could have experienced the ultimate reward of being female - that of carrying and bearing new life. I could only imagine that making it worth all of the notorious inconveniences that are part and parcel of life as a female. Absent these experiences, I can only speculate...

I hate being female. I feel like a man, inside.

Well I can only say unequivocally sure that I wouldn't know what that's like.

I don't hate being female, there are parts I don't like but it would be weird to be male. I do hate society's expectations and stereotypes of what women are supposed to be like.

I can't remember ever being happy being female. I have excepted it, but feel male inside. My dad wanted a son, & more or less treated me as though I were one (most of the time). He took me kite flying, hiking, fishing, etc. I was also the one who was required to do the yard work, because I didn't have a brother. I did prefer boys' toys (tonka trucks, blocks, legos, etc) to girls toys. Hated playing hopscotch, house, & with dolls. My mother was always disappointed in me because I wasn't the little girly girl she wanted. If I had been given a choice, I would have chosen the male gender. I have carried 2 children to full term in spite of a partial hysterectomy. I have to say, I didn't really enjoy being pregnant. Could be partly due to messed up internal parts, along with having AS. Worst was when complete strangers felt they just had to touch me, & did it without bothering to ask me if it was ok first. I have always liked my space, & don't like strangers encroaching, especially if I'm not expecting it.

I love being female. Though mentally I often feel fairly androgynous, I'm very femme on the outside and really into all its aspects.

I can say that I do agree that others will have an entirely different perception of you, even on internet forums, depending on whether you known to be male or female, regardless of what you actually say.

You will first be designated by what you are, in the minds of others, in a conscious or subconscious way, and then by what you say, and women do tend to get the shorter end of the stick when it comes to being viewed in the same intellectual light, even in an unintended sense by well meaning men, and even by other women.

However, if you have AS, I don't think being a male is any easier, as one of the other posters pointed out, many AS males meet social standards any better than AS females, and they have the added burden of being treated much more harshly because of it.

A good chunk of gender identity is no longer innate and only propagates in our society through social inheritance, and people with AS don't pick up on it easily in much the same way we don't pick up on other things.

There are situations where I really wish I was male; most of the time I'm pretty neutral about my gender identity. I think about the only time that I don't mind being female is when it comes to sex. Then I'm good with being female.

At times, yes. However, I can't really imagine myself being different. However, given the choice, I think I would have chosen male gender, deffinitely. However, I kind of have come to accept it, yet there are times when I really hate being female.

Actually, I've always been so glad that I'm female. There are some 'things' that come with it, but I would prefer them to the things that come with being a guy.

I used to. I got along better with guys and felt that things were much simpler around them.

But from what I've seen and heard, there can be just as much subtle bitching/power struggle for guys as with women (I was just exempt at the time because I have ovaries).

The lads with their obscene 'hwooaagh' jokes are the male equivalent to the female giggling, bitchy sex&the city type crowd, and most guys (especially younger ones) have to fit in with these popular types to be accepted. The constant crude talk, whilst fun occasionally, gets old very quick, as do the grossly exaggerated feats of prowness..

With girls, it's ok to be quiet. I'm quite relieved at this. I've been fighting against it for years and forcing myself to make other shy girls feel ok by being the one to make conversation, jokes etc.. but my mid years resolution is to let others do some of the work from now on. I'll chat to chatty people, or shy ones who are making an effort, but I've no time for the lazy.

I hate being a girl, period cramps, mood swings, pregnancy, more females than males so it's harder to find a partner and everyone expects you to LOVE babies/children.
I'm a virgin so I never had to deal with pregnancy.

I don't... HATE it... but I don't LIKE it either....

I have to say, women look a lot nicer, and glad I don't have a penis... I just don't like the social stigmas associated with women and people instantly assuming things about me right away

but on the other hand, I prefer skirts to pants, so much more comfortable as a girl...

I almost want to be androgynous... but there're really no words to describe one in that case (he or she, no in between... which sort of sucks, a neutral word would help)

I also don't relate very well to a lot of girls... but do a lot more to men... but these days I've sort of accepted it (for the most part), and try to enjoy shocking people by not meeting their expectations *shrug*