Early relationship advice

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Last Saturday I went out with a girl (I'm a girl too, for clarity). She's a self-confessed introvert and I'm pretty inexperienced dating women. She seems to like me a lot, and I like her too, but she kept asking me if I was sad or upset so it really wasn't getting through, I guess. I don't want to screw things up so I wonder how I can be more expressive for her without scaring her off or being too weird.

Do you usually have a blank expression? Maybe she was nervous about how the date was going and was trying to gauge by your facial expression. She could have thought you weren't having a good time even if you were.

Did you tell her you have AS and why your facial expressions may not always match how you are feeling?

I usually am blank when I'm not telling myself to smile, look at folks, etc. I think Aimless is right, because I've gone out with her twice more and she seemed nervous. She kept touching her hair and fixing her shirt and looking down. But I'm pretty sure she likes me, because she still wants to go out places with me, so I guess I'm not screwing up too much. Maybe the stupid expression on my face even works in my favor by suggesting I'm "hard to get". That would be pretty funny, actually.

If your face and body language aren't really expressive, you might have to verbalize your enjoyment. Just saying stuff like, "I'm having a really good time." would probably help. You might also want to mention that your feelings aren't always physically shown.