What are some ways to make myself more sexually appealing?

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I don't want to show much cleavage at all, especially since any boys I would meet would be at school, but I want to figure out ways to make guys notice me a bit more, like with body language or the right level of sexuality in my clothing/make-up, etc.
I have a curvy body, but with clothing it looks very subtle. I don't wear make-up very much, I personally think I look just as good without it. I wear glasses and have shortish hair, which makes me worry because I've heard that guys are more attracted to long hair. I look good in my glasses and don't want contacts, but I think this could be repelling guys.
I never wear baggy or clothes with stains and stuff like that, but I know guys don't usually care about that unless they actually notice the stains and stuff.
I don't want to ask this on the dating board because I'm not interested so much in actual dating then getting a flirtatious look or two. I just want to feel sexy once in a while, you know? A confidence boost if you will. I feel a female opinion would be best as well.
It's hard because I have scars from SI on my chest area and legs so I don't show off much skin in those places, making me worry because guys of this age are hormone driven manics, so I should show off more, but it scares me that I'll be rejected from the scars, despite them not being super visible.
Any tips?

*shrug* Wish I could help but I have no idea. D:

lol, thanks, at least I'm not alone.
I just feel so weird that I've not even had my first kiss or anything, no boyfriend, and I'm going to be 18 in a MONTH 0_o *is feeling super insecure*

I didn't have my first kiss until I was 19, so don't feel bad.

I don't have a boyfriend either. I just have difficulty starting and maintaining relationships. I had 2 and the longest relationship out of them was 2 months. So I've spent the vast majority of my life in singlehood too. I'm told that I'm not missing much but I don't believe them. >.>

Science proves that long, dark/brunette hair is attractive (it has to do with fertility or something, but this totally works on me and I'm a chick). Girl, maybe you should get some extensions. How about some nice tight pants to emphasize your butt? Also, you know, for some of my SI scars, those scar creams you can get at pharmacies worked wonders. Good luck, milady. *bows and rides off into the sunset*

But not sooooo tight that you have unsightly camel toe up front.

As a guy, all I can say is that the makeup that accenuates the eyes subtly, for some reason makes a noticeable difference when I see a girl.

If you have absolutely zero make-up, it kind of has the same effect as wearing too much make-up. Triggers my "something's amiss here" alarm.

P.S. I really try not to read this forum and especially avoid threads that appear to have sensitive topics, but thought I'd chime in on this one. You can lower the weapons now

You know, it's REALLY hard to give specific advice without knowing what you actually look like.

Anyway, you seem to know what you need to do (wear makeup, switch to contacts, longer hair, etc.) if your intention is to be more sexually appealing (not that it is something I would personally advocate). What did you need us for?

I'll lower my weapons until all the pests are out of the way, thanks.

Uh...wear deodorant?
Men should see past 'looks'.

Dear one,

Hate to say it but sex appeal is a state of mind. Aesthetics help when you are trying to convey a certain "mood" or desire, however it has been my experience that feeling sexy is associated with self-esteem( or at least an idea of your sexual self, what you WANT as opposed to what you think you should do), a potent mix of chemicals, namely hormones which relates to sex drive, and a sense of personal virility.

And it has been a very interesting experiment in this area - when I entered peri-menopuase. I have always had a high sex drive (higher levels of testosterone than what is considered borderline in women). I had no knowledge of my sexual identity as such and was terrified of boys. I did not lose my virginity until after I turned 18. Yet, my drive was high which propelled me. Since hormone collapse as I enter the end of fertility, my testosterone levels are all over the place and my sex drive all but disappeared until I went on HRT.

Strangely, I still hold myself the same way, even if I have matured, and dress quite similarly, yet desire is lacking and I do not feel as virile ergo I do not get as much "attention" as I used to. I do not feel as confident in myself, I am not releasing the same pheromones as I used to and that is why, I believe it has little to do with look. The aesthetics have barely changed over the years, but my FEELINGS/ PHYSIOLOGY have.

Maybe start on what you actually want to do with guys. If you want to flirt, do it in a way that makes you feel comfortable, but maybe get a bit more comfortable with your OWN skin first.

Take good care and be kind to self,

Mics

Well, part of this board was to see whether what I had heard of being sexually attractive is true. I knew that a lot of people wouldn't be happy with this thread, but it would be a lie to say that guys don't look at looks first at all, even the good ones We females do the same, people are biologically lookists. At least my face is symmetrical, that helps me a lot.


It's not like it's obvious though that I don't wear make-up, except my lips. No make-up, even if it's heavy, will make my eyes look much wider because I have a kind of heavy lid that makes my eyelids a bit obsolte. I could wear mascara more though, maybe a little bit of eyeliner at the outer edge of my eyes for a mild catwoman look (I find that makes them look bigger). I find that I don't need anything on my cheeks though, my face is too pale to get away with much bronzor/blush wise anyway.

My self-confidence is starting to become better, which is good, but I've always been a shy person. I'm a bubbly person when you get to know me, but it's hard to show it. It's hard because my mind at school is so scattered that I often miss opportunities to flirt/interact with males in a suggestive way.

I actually don't dislike much of my body, just the thighs (and I just got some smokin' hot jeans that made me feel better about them), my tummy (but I feel better about that when I'm wearing a flattering shirt) and the scars.

I really want a long-term boyfriend (hormones want more, but that's NOT happening until a long-term boyfriend comes along), but flirting or even kissing would be a nice start.

I've heard that red is supposed to attract men, is that true? I only have a few red shirts.

I don't think I can wear tight pants, my thighs are bigger then my hips (just happened that way), so I need a bit of a flare to balance things out. It's hard because my fashion isn't like other teens, I don't dress old, but I don't dress young either. I like my fashion the way it is

I actually don't believe relationships are everything, family is more important to me, but I would like to dip in the relationship world a little bit.

I would get looks but no idea how to return the eye contact or signals. So I would say make sure you practice the social skills to let them know your interested too.

Short hair can be cute but make sure its not the stereotypical lesbian cut.

I have spent a disproportionate amount of time in my life on my hair and I notice other women's hair, too. The right cut and possibly color could do a lot. You could get your eyebrows done, too - that's subtle and doesn't really require makeup, but it can really brighten your face. Some fun shoes and cute jeans can make a big difference, too. You don't need a big wardrobe, just one with good pieces in it that you are comfortable in and will actually wear.

If you don't to wear makeup but want the effect, try tinted moisturizer with SPF. It'll smooth out your face but it's not thick like makeup can be. Also, curl your eyelashes if they're not already curly. It'll really make your eyes seem more alert.

Pay attention to your accessories, like your bag - a pretty one can make you look almost like you're wearing jewelry even when you're not. And try some trendy sunglasses, gloves, etc. You can get cool ones for very little money and you don't really have to change your routine. Try hoop earrings if you can stand them - they have an immediate impact.

If you put all those things I mentioned together and throw on some nude or rose lip gloss, you'll look like you're done up but you've not had to fuss with primer and eye shadow and blush and all that stuff.

These things themselves don't make you sexier, but you'll feel pretty cool and that's sexy.

I have spent a disproportionate amount of time in my life on my hair and I notice other women's hair, too. The right cut and possibly color could do a lot. You could get your eyebrows done, too - that's subtle and doesn't really require makeup, but it can really brighten your face. Some fun shoes and cute jeans can make a big difference, too. You don't need a big wardrobe, just one with good pieces in it that you are comfortable in and will actually wear.

If you don't to wear makeup but want the effect, try tinted moisturizer with SPF. It'll smooth out your face but it's not thick like makeup can be. Also, curl your eyelashes if they're not already curly. It'll really make your eyes seem more alert.

Pay attention to your accessories, like your bag - a pretty one can make you look almost like you're wearing jewelry even when you're not. And try some trendy sunglasses, gloves, etc. You can get cool ones for very little money and you don't really have to change your routine. Try hoop earrings if you can stand them - they have an immediate impact.

If you put all those things I mentioned together and throw on some nude or rose lip gloss, you'll look like you're done up but you've not had to fuss with primer and eye shadow and blush and all that stuff.

These things themselves don't make you sexier, but you'll feel pretty cool and that's sexy.

Also, exercise.

Get a brazilian wax

as cliche as it sounds, personality really is a huge factor.

Having said that, looking sexy is, too. Guy DO pay attention to clothes, more than we think but that doesn't mean you should dress like a ho bag(=X) You sound like you dress nicely, just try to go for clothes that hug you in the right places and show of your assets.

Makeup isn't a NEED. If you think you look good without it then you probably do. I REALLY do believe that longer hair is almost always prettier/sexier and just attracts PEOPLE to you, though. Of course some women look very sexy with short hair but even these women might look *prettier* with long hair, only because it's more feminine. I say consider growing it out.

Other than that, I really do believe that personality is a huge factor. If you project confidence men really will notice that. They notice beautiful girls who have no personalities as well but generally tire of them more quickly or just use them for sex, I see this happen to VERY attractive girls because they just haven't got a clue.