what was your first heartbreak like

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I just got out of my first real relationship and I was wondering what was your first heartbreak like. I know that this would normally be a question for the love and dating forum but being a girl I would like to know specifically from you girls what this kind of experience was like for you guys.

Worst pain in my life. Thought it wouldn't be because by the end, I hated the bastard, but it still felt like a cauldron of scalding acid being suspended inside my chest; the slightest emotional tip or reminder (and everything was a reminder) would send it splashing and my insides would feel as if they were burning, and there was nothing I could do about it for months.

These days, nada.

Never fallen in love, so I've obviously never had my 'heart broken'.

i have gotten my heart broken a lot. i fall easily, and i fall hard.

sometimes i broke my own heart because i did the breaking up, and even though i knew it was for the best it tore me up.

my first big big heartbreak was over a guy i dated for 5 days at age 15 and became obsessed with. i called him every single day. i wrote poetry and cried all the time - probably for 3 or 4 months. finally a mutual 'friend' started dating him and got me off of his back in an awful way (supposedly on his request).

she said, "he wanted me to tell you something. he wanted me to say that even he has bigger boobs than you do. he said you're flat as a a board." well, since it was coming from a guy who actually FELT them, i was humilated.

but it worked. i was extremely hurt, but i was able to get completely over him. for some reason i stayed sort-of-friends with that girl for another year. it never occurred to me to be angry with her.

I was so angry, but being the typical aspie I had no one to talk to it about so all this pain, anger, sadness, grief built up inside like a volcano wanting to explode. I cried for days, until I physically couldn't produce more tears. I was so angry this person I had built my life around me would leave me to handle life by myself. It took me a long time to recover, to move on, to live. Even now when I am happy with someone else and he is but a shadow to me the pain of that breakup has stayed with me.

I was pissed after my first relationship ended. I cried for a while and then was fine the next day. He was an as*hole.

My second heartbreak was MUCH MUCH worse. I'm still not sure if I'm over him or not. :/

And the worst part of this topic is....is that I was this special young ladies first heart break and I feel terrible about it

A broken heart is the worst feeling in the world.

It feels like a lump of coal in your chest, and a feeling of helplessness, you just want the pain to go away and you know you have no power over it.

Red hot, sharp instruments poking through my chest every time a memory comes up...it's not the first time, but it's the worst :*( and I can't get rid of the memories...the first heartbreak was as a teenager and it was *nothing* compared to this...like, a little straight pin compared to a huge dagger that's been sitting in a fire for a few hours...

~Kate

I've been in relationships, but I've never been heartbroken...but I don't think I've been in love either, so.

Horrible. Drank too much, nearly failed my first year at uni, was delusional and paranoid and almost psychotic, even took up religion.

Thankfully, it didn't stop me falling in love again. My current bf was very persistent. Kept knocking on the door, so to speak. At first I didn't want anyone. I'm glad he kept waiting and trying.

it was the most horrible thing I have ever experienced. To make matters worse it happened 3 months after my mothers death from cancer. My heart physically ached and i thought I was going to die. I didnt care either way. I was extremely suicidal, almost psychotic, you name it. Took me 2 years to finally get over this creep, only to fall for another creep. and now people wonder why i want to remain single?

I don't understand what heartbreak is. Is this literally physical symptoms from missing someone you were in a relationship or is this purely emotional missing someone? I'll probably never experience it, which has both good and bad implications.

Its physical symptoms. Thats where the term comes from. Your chest hurts.
The emotional pain triggers it, both are present and awful.

Also never forget your emotional, mental, physical and spiriual bodies work as one. One always affects the rest.

This is the first time I've ever had my chest actually hurt...

~Kate