Wants a bestie........

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I have all male friends. I love them dearly but they're all like brothers. They don't care about limitied edition makeup sets, cute hot pink sweaters or OPI nail polish. I really wish I had a bestie. A female best friend. And some miserable slob who doesn't give a f**k about girl things ain't gonna cut it. I need a person I can talk about makeup and clothes and nail polish and shoes and purses and acessories and jewelry. I feel like I have nobody to do that with.

I've longed for a female friend, too. But I wouldn't do for you because I'm one of those miserable slobs who doesn't give a f**k about makeup and nail polish (though I do enjoy knitting sweaters.) Funny, though, I don't *feel* miserable.

I accidentally got a free year's subscription to Glamour Magazine. I read it just for the culture shock. I just can't imagine being one of those women who LIKES that magazine and pays good money to read it. So I think you have a better shot at a bestie than me because most women are makeup and purse crazy. I want a bestie I can talk about math and rats and drums with.

Another miserable slob who doesn't give a f**k about girl things here. Oh woe is me

I like OPI polish and handbags and stuff. I have no girlfriends - but it never occurred to me to talk to another girl about that stuff. Once I wished I had a friend to go with me to the store and shop for clothes. I doubt that will ever happen.

I love fashion, handbags, designer shoes and hairstyles and make up....and and and and.....

I just got a new Kate Spade bag about a month ago that I'm excited about. I feel pretty chic carrying it around. I have some other cool handbags, too. And I have a couple pairs of Fluevogs. I like nice things and don't see a problem buying fewer, yet better quality things. I don't go shopping often, but when I do, I usually go get a piece or two that I really like. Rarely do I balk at a price because the way I see it is if I really really like it and use it all the time until it's nearly worn out, then it's worth it. I also have a collection of Bare Essentials eye shadow that I really get a giddy pleasure out of and a little collection of designer jeans that I adore. If you ever want to talk cool stuff like that just pm me!

ps- and I have a thing for handmade kid gloves. hehehehe I will talk designer anything....

I guess the two of us can be miserable and slobby together and talk about miserable slobby things like squirrels or something. I have gotten some of the campus squirrels to take food straight from my hand. They don't care that I cut my fingernails short and don't wear makeup. They think my almonds are pretty cool anyway.

LOL! Hey, I like squirrels, too! I'd just have to pull my treats out of an of-the-moment Coach bag. hehehehe

And that's the great thing about squirrels: they would think you were pretty cool, too!

Yay! Squirrels for all!

I'm not very girly but I do love lurid nail varnish and glittery earrings. Will I do?

Most of my girlfriends are kinda guyish -- in fact, the one I see the most, my husband calls an "honorary guy." I know that if he's out on a guy's night, she's probably along! I do have another friend, though, who is more girly, like me! It is a relief for me to have someone to be silly and girly with -- I was just lucky in that she knew a good male friend of mine. When she moved here, he brought her to a party and she and I clicked. Before I met her, though, I hadn't had a close girl friend in YEARS!

I've always made friends w/ guys too. But I love make up and glitter and cotton candy body spray and funky clothes! And anything moon and stars or fairies! I'd really love some female aspies to talk to!

I have female friends, but they are not very girly! And half of them are gay!

I'd like to have one of those best friends you can talk everyday with. How does that happen?

My observations: Many girls best friends are ones they've known a LONG time--and even if not so, if they already have a tight knit friend group, it's like "they're taken" and they don't make room for new friends. They may hang out w/ you if YOU invite them, and perhaps see you as more of an "aquaintance friend" but they don't go out of their way to invite YOU places. (personal experience anyhow, so I may be talking out of my ass) Girls that don't have a solid friend group, perhaps have moved to a new place, or are experiencing a change of their person (in which case their friends are starting to be less similar to them) are the kind of girls one would have to connect with to start that type of relationship. Meeting girls at work or church can start a good bond b/c you have things to discuss that only work people know, but some people are hard to redirect to turn the relationship to "not just work related"--one girl I tried to befriend, not matter what we did or where we went, all she could talk about was work. It was so obnoxious actually. I didn't want to be JUST that and it was a bore. Work was the last thing I wanted to think about.

I guess a lot of it would have to be a God thing. But I've had girls I did connect w/ at least on some level and was SO hopeful they'd become true friends but time and time again, for one reason or another, it never happened. And when I'm the only one trying, it's gets old.

Yet another "miserable slob" who, for some strange reason, feels just fine.

You know, I've done some thinking about the whole "best friend" issue. It seems like I only really want one when I'm surrounded by other women who have best friends, like when I was working with tight-knit coworkers, or when I was in college and living in the dorm. When I'm on my own with no one to compare myself to, I kind of like it that way. I have family who care about me. I've also realized that having close friends means you have to open up the most personal, private details of your life to them. I'm not sure I'm ready for that yet.

Why don't you join a makeup or handbag forum? Then you can talk all you want about those. I wish I have a good girlfriend to talk about those, too, and go shopping with, but I can't really handle the emotional requirement that usually comes with female friendship.