when you see a woman who is very "put together"

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...do you wonder how she did it? When I see a woman with heavily-prepared hair, clothes, makeup, etc., I'm usually dumbfounded. I can manage to pull off one of those things, but not all at the same time. How do they do it? Don't they go crazy from the tedium of preening?

When I see a woman like that, I always want to take my time and study her to try to figure out how she did it.

Do women who look like that spend hours preparing themselves for the outside world?

My beauty routine is combing my hair. If I'm going out and have a lot of ambition, I wear lipstick. In-between I try to remember to take a shower each day.

If my clothes have been washed, I consider them "safe" to wear.

I think they get help. They get thier hair and nails done and sometimes facials too. They usually dont get very dirty, so thier clothing is usually nicer too. I think it's easier to be all put together if you dont have anything challenging in your life too. Like these women never have to lift heavy things, run for the bus or wake up too early.

Those women may have been to modelling/deportment classes and have actually been coached on how to prepare thier hair, clothes and makeup. It may take a long time for them to doll themselves up at first but with more practise I bet they can do thier hair and makeup in 20-30 mins. They pick out thier clothes the night before.
I like to take second glances at other females that present themselves well, but following thier example would cause much stress for me

God, yes!! !! . These kind of women must spend most of their time preening themselves. If I was them I would be unable to enjoy life for fear of bits falling off or coming undone!! .
I have been to people's doors in the middle of the day before and found them doing housework in this kind of state of immaculate-ness, it's amazing!!.
I have to feel comfortable, I can't wear skirts or tights, I have to dress in practical clothes so I can go from dog-walking to hoovering to shopping without changing my clothes.
I find women who look very 'together' quite intimidating.

i personally feel that to be that put together is to take time away from the best thing in my life.. my kids. my god friend is that put tothether and she starts at 5 am and never finishes until 7. needless to say she has no kids. and she never would because she admits that she is selfish.. i would wonder if these folks are that put together after she has a child.. i was like that when i was a teen because i wanted to fit in.. but then i lost that attitude fast.. i would not/could not waste my time and hard earned money on the crap they buy and use to make them selves look good.. i say if you don't like the way I look then don't look at me..

I was checking out this lady's website . She was an "upscale" hooker. She talked about needing a certain amount of time to prepare (like 24 hours or so). She then listed a very long list of preening she does. I mean a list so long with things a typical
man has never heard of. So I woud guess a well put together women is making a
living either legalily(actor,model, rich husband) or illegalily(hooker).

Why are you concentrating on others? Worry about yourself.

It makes me wonder how much these people feel the need to look this way so that they feel accepted or important. I tell my daughter there is a fine line in fashion and it is better to just try and do one or maybe two things but the total package is often considered trying to hard. You lose your individuality and look like your trying to be a model or something - which is ok if you are a model I guess but otherwise that looks kind of weird mopping the floor or doing the dishes like that.

I live across the street from a shopping mall. Whenever I enter the shopping mall I have to go past two or three cosmetic counters. There are always lots of women hovering around these counters who have perfect hair, perfect nails, perfect clothes, and of course, perfect makeup. I can't imagine why any woman would want to take precious time out of her day to spend fixing herself up like that. In order to get those blonde highlights in one's hair, for example, you have to go and sit in the salon for like three hours. The false nails take forever at the beauty salon. This is not to mention the hours spent trying on clothes to get the perfect fit and style. I would much rather spend the hours I have to myself, when not doing childcare, doing something more interesting than worrying about how I look. I prefer to read a book, or spend time writing, or go the the library, or search the internet for information related to my interests.

I do feel badly though sometimes, that I do not meet the standards set by all those polished, tidy and attractively dressed women.

I'd rather be a common "Cockney", than a well-preened Woman.

I really don't like those girls who are just too PRETTY, too perfectly put together, and sometimes they look like a whore or a whore in training. I perhaps unfairly or incorrectly always assume that they are as slu*ty and bitchy as they tend to look. I think because if you are THAT obsessed and perfect with your looks than you are probably just looking for a really shallow guy, or just looking to make other girls jealous, and it works. I just.....urg! Don't get me started, lol

I wish i could put myself together a bit more though, but I don't do too bad about it, and I start to feel like people who go too far to like buy all sorts of hair products and makeup and nail products and jewlerry etc, are just wasting their time and money, because its not that necessary. My hair is naturally wavy, I just brush it and it looks pretty nice (But I wish I could get it styled somehow). I just put on some mascara and eye liner and thats my whole face done. lol Ok well, I do have good skin though so I can get away with that. Lipstick? Naaaah.... but my lips do tend to get dried out and crackily, so I just use lip palm and it looks smooth and works great instead of lipstick anyway.

I think I just wanna get my hair styled, lose a bit of weight, buy some better clothes, and get the gap in my teeth fixed, and I'll be practically a knock out. I'm already not that bad.

But hey, however you want to present yourself is up to you. I think looks are fairly important, you do want to look pretty and presentable, but just don't go overboard because theres more to life than looking good.

I could start off well groomed if I really worked hard at it but an hour later my hair would be exploding all over, my lipstick would be on my teeth, and my clothes would be twisted from trying to move right. I can't walk in high heels, and the feel of pantyhose makes me want to scream.

I take about two showers a day and scrub my nails and teeth etc. That's about all I can manage.

I wonder why they care so much.

The only time I look 'put together' is when I'm going to a job interview. ...Unless I'm late, or can't find the place, or it's for a job I really want; then I just look panicked. Getting ready for an interview is probably the most time I ever spend on appearance, though - I try to wear smart looking clothes, take time to arrange my hair, put on a (small) bit of make-up, and generally go out looking as if I've made an effort. Although this thread has now left me second-guessing myself, and wondering if my appearance after putting all that effort into it makes the interviewers think I look 'too perfect'. I certainly seem to have a better effect on male interviewers than female ones. (I definitely don't look slu*ty, though, in case anyone's wondering if that's the reason for the abovementioned disparity of responses according to gender.)

I also make more of an effort to look put together is for a job interview. Usually I wear foundation, blush, eye shadow, mascara, and lipstick. I also wear slacks and a nice blouse with a jacket. I prefer slacks because I can wear knee highs instead of pantyhose which I hate because they're so uncomfortable.

I don't wear nail polish or grow my nails long as I'm extremely active, and the polish tends to chip easily with me. With martial arts, it's easier to participate if your nails are relatively short. I do get my eyebrows and upper lip waxed, but that's the most I'll do for my appearance other than a haircut. I don't feel the need to spend tons of money on various products or salon treatments because I like the way I look. When I don't have an interview, I don't wear makeup except for tinted lip balm.

It's even worse, when one of those Put-Together Women is Pregnant, walking next to her tough-looking Stud-Muffin Boyfriend and she's laughing at me, at 6:00 in the Morning. I knew that there was a reason for me to be scared of NT Females.