Is not wearing make-up such a big deal?

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I don't wear make-up, and I never have done, expect sometimes on the odd occasion. I am an attractive person, but people keep getting onto me that I look too young for my age, and that wearing make-up would help make me look more like a woman in her early 20s (which I am), rather than a 12-year-old. I have a standard hairstyle too - the type where it's just tucked behind my ears, and quite long. People tell me that if I changed my hairstyle too I would look more older.

But because I have Dyspraxia, my hands shake very bad when I'm handling something fiddly, and so whenever I've tried to put make-up on, I go all over the place because my hands just cannot keep still when doing something fiddly. Putting on make-up requires care and patience, and I'm not very careful when handling small equipment like mascara brushes (ect), alongside with cutting with scissors in a straight line, writing neatly, doing up buttons, tying shoelaces, peeling an apple or a potato, and so on. So I will always find it hard to put on make-up - not that I'm all that interested anyway. The only make-up I put on is nail-varnish, but I do bite my nails constantly.

But its not men what make me concerned about whether I've got a bit of make-up on or not, because I get lots of nice looks and winks and smiles from men. (I even have a couple of men who won't stop texting, and they keep asking me out every few weeks, in the hope that I will give in to one of them). It's women who criticise and judge you if you're not wearing make-up. By girls at college I got called ''Butch'' all the time (even though I love the colour pink and I wear trendy feminine clothes). But when I walk in the street I always get funny looks by other young women and teenage girls, and I'm not sure if it's because I look like a plain-Jane all the time. But surely putting on make-up every morning shouldn't be a chore or a rule. I thought putting on make-up was mostly an enjoyment or a habit, or even an obsession.

What do you think? Is not wearing make-up a crime against the nature of a woman? Is it really the end of the world if one chooses not to wear make-up?


ps - don't be fooled by my nickname!

i hardly wear it.
not day-to-day anyway.
on a night out, i will, but not a lot.

I don't wear makeup and neither do I wear feminine or revealing clothes. And I never feel like that's a problem for the men I work with and hang out with. They don't seem to fancy me but that's fine, I don't want them to. I think they just consider me one of the guys, just a small high-voiced bumpy-chested guy (well that's how I think of myself so I assume they do). But I often feel women are judging me. Maybe it's just paranoia since I have never felt comfortable around women. But I get the impression that when women look at me they judge me negatively for not playing the game.

I have a really lovely good-looking kind clever boyfriend so obviously you don't need to be feminine to get one of those. So their game rules don't always apply in the real world anyway!

I only wear makeup on special occasions and it has never been a problem. No women have ever hassled me for it, and men who were romantically interested have said they liked my natural look.

Maybe the women around you are mad that you are showing them up to be painted and fake, and by walking around looking natural and young you are ruining their little game.

I wear make-up very occasionally, I do like wearing it but most days I just can't bothered. If I go out without make-up on I'm not fussed, in fact at college I only wore make-up a few times a month if I had time. If I'm going to some social event I do like to dress up a bit and put some bold, colourful eye shadow on it is fun to mess around with colours when it's a special occasion. On Friday I'm going on my first proper "date" with someone I don't really know, so I'm going to have loads of fun dressing up and looking nice, I'm going to get a new outfit and eyes shadow colours.

This really depends on where you are in life and the truth is various women have various opinions on this.
I wear glasses and never really wear makeup. Thats the thing, I wear glasses and much of this is perception, and glasses equals quiet bookish type to most people especially if you are the quiet bookish type.
Some women NEED makeup, but most do not. For the record it does not make you look any older, in fact it makes most women look a little bit younger.
The very strange thing is I never seem to get the "you should wear makeup" bit. I mostly get "you don't need it", or "it does not make you look much different".

I will say much of this may very well be geographic and cultural. There is different expectations in different places.

I've found many NT women to be....well, just downright bitchy and negative. They seem to like playing games and it seems to make them feel good by making other women feel bad - it's weird. Does this mean 100% of NT women do this? No. But it does mean that in my experiences with such women, I've found them to be backstabbing, conniving, and rather shallow.

Forget them. Be yourself. If one day you want to play with makeup, then have fun!! But, until then, remember that it doesn't matter what they say or think just as long as you are happy (and most of them aren't really happy at all).

I've never voluntarily worn makeup. The only times I've ever used it were for my Junior Prom and Senior Ball and stage makeup when I was on the cast for the school musical in Junior year (never, ever use stage makeup, the stuff is like acrylic paint when you try to get it off ).

It really doesn't matter if you use it or not, it's a personal choice. Honestly, some women look better without makeup than with it. And most women only need a little bit of coverup every so often.

I like make up but I don't wear much. I'm also very picky about what I wear. It has to wash off really easy and I shouldn't be able to feel it at all. If you don't like it I don't see any reason to wear it.

Please, do not be fooled or shamed into thinking that the ritual of makeup application is de rigueur, certainly not if your goal is to attract men, which you don't seem to have difficulty with.

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No, definitely not the end of the world. Plus not wearing make-up saves you time and money, and maybe even spare you a nasty eye infection or two from bacteria-ridden mascara and a few dozen acne break-out from dirty make-up applicators.

I never thought make-up makes me look better and in most cases, it doesn't really make other women look better either. I once heard a beauty contest judge say that make-up should only take about 5 minutes to do--if you have to take longer than that, you'll probably not helping yourself and are better off going natural. Plus, at my age, it tends to make my fine lines stand up more than they would without it. I'll use pressed powder to tone down the redness my pale, pale, easily irritated skin is prone to, but other than that, no. I hate the stuff.

I do use moisturizers. A good moisturizer is far better at make you look good than makeup, IMO.

She's really pretty without the make-up. Looks awful afterwards

(lmao.. listened with the volume on.. she sounds cool)

Definitely. Its funny because the after is quite how many girls apply makeup. Who knows what they look like without.

I think she looked better without make-up too.

of course she looked better without the makeup...that's the point.

I have the exact opposite problem. I have always looked younger than my age, but when I put on makeup I look even younger still. No matter what I do, the moment I put foundation on I turn into a china doll.



I get this a lot too. Usually when I say I don't wear makeup, people respond "I never noticed!". I only wear it for special occasions, maybe a few times a year. Coudn't be bothered for everyday.