Facial hair, anyone?

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Do any other aspie women grow facial/other body hair?

I have been suffering with this since puberty, I also have gender issues though and I have heard that it's not "uncommon" in transgendered females. There are no hormonal reasons why this is happening in my body, I have tried various birth controls but nothing seems to work. I don't care so much, and my husband doesn't care (because I don't let myself go completely to shambles) but people are discriminatory with their comments and stares. I like to be invisible, and having a set of whiskers doesn't help.

I was just curious if this is common in other aspie women as well.

I have a slight bit of hair above the upper lip, but it's light and most people seem to have it.

That said, I found a long, dark hair under my chin a couple of weeks back. So, I plucked it out.

I also have a couple of hairs on my breasts. I'm just a hairy person, really.

I do not have the lip hair, but since I took some crazy diet pills a while back for a month, my cheek hairs grew longer and stayed blonde. I think this is an adrenal issue, and the growth stopped once I went off the pills.

I have a brown moustache, monobrow and string of black hairs on my chin...all of which I shave off religiously.

I am naturally hairy but quite a few other women in my family are. My family reacted badly to me not shaving when I was teenager and basically told me that I need to shave because I'm dark haired and some men are less hairy than me. I shave very regularly because of the teasing I had at school. I also don't feel attractive when I'm hairy, but that's just me

I am a bit transgendered (more by definition, the label seems weird) because I don't feel female in the head and feel androgynous. However, having a female body never bothered me that much. I feel like I have to maintain this female body and have it look a certain way (i.e. not hairy) to meet social expectations.

Where did you hear that transgendered women tend to grow more facial hair (without hormones, or anything?) I've not heard that before.

My family also reacted badly to me not removing my hair, my mom actually lied and told me we were going elsewhere...then took me to a parlour to have my face waxed when I was younger. I have never shaved, but it takes me several hours each week to pluck. I feel gross when I am hairy but sometimes it feels so unfair to spend hours to look like a gender that I don't identify with, and mainly for the sake of others. I am fairly androgenous in appearance, thankfully, so if people aren't looking too closely they probably pass me off as "unknown".
I am going to search again for where I found the link about females with facial hair and also gender issues. I found it a few years back when I was heavily researching my problem, but since it seemed to answer quite a few questions I just took it as it was. Now that I've gone and said that, the information will probably turn out to be false. I will post it here if I can come across it again.
I also have trouble with the term "transgendered". I usually refer to myself as having gender issues.

Hi. I've noticed some of this on my own face - well, probably on my whole body. The facial hair (thankfully, rather sporadic and not worsening) mostly comes in blonde; like the hair on my head. But, I occasionally get dark (and usually single) hairs at the base/front of my neck and around the collarbone area. These I pluck -especially since they're very noticeable against my pale skin. I've noticed the darker hairs appear more frequently during the times that I lift weights...but not necessarily with other exercise such as fast-walking, bicycling, etc. We all are made up of 'female' and 'male' components. Guess weight-lifting is just something that brings out the hairy 'man' in me. Ha! If one can assume that hairiness is a privilege only accorded to males. (Denial of women's reality...) I'm not too sure hairiness is something credible to use for dismissing/scorning others or 'allowing' others to scorn one's self. One of the best, dearest folksingers I'd ever encountered was a woman with a soft mustache. She was adored by those around her and those who got to hear her sing. I knew a soft 'butch' woman who deliberately shaved just to get her facial hair to grow in (she wanted to attract those who preferred such a statement). It could just be about so many other things that others may choose to mock. It takes deciding if this is a particular battle one wants to fight or if one can get comfortable with the efforts it takes to conform to expectations...

I found a new chin hair, today. Dark, wirey and quite long. I plucked it out, again.

My eyebrows are approaching a monobrow, atm.

Honestly if I had facial hair I'd get rid of it by any means possible.

Out of curiosity, how does your husband feel about your gender issues?

My husband is very understanding and supportive. We liked each other in highschool and lost touch, and when we ran back into each other he actually thought I was gay. He loves me for my brain, and he loves that I'm not a "girl". He is an aspie as well, and does not conform to the traditional "male" persona. I do keep my facial hair plucked, I actually remove all of my body hair except my eyebrows and I have short hair on my head. If I don't remove it though, I literally grow a better beard than most 18 year old boys, a hairy stomach and up my chest. I've had it since I was about 12 or 13, when I was going through puberty. I basically went through puberty as a boy and as a girl, minus the penis. I went through a voice change and got tons of hair, and I got my period and breasts. Go figure.

I was born with hair down my back my parents say. I always thought I was a werewolf. I used to just have to bleach when I was in high school but now I wax which lasts longer but I cannot leave the house because it leaves my face so red. If I let my eyebrows do what they want I would look like a vulcan (cool only in theory though) I don't mess with my arms cause the hair isn't dark and its so soft and downy. No other girl in my family has the long hair on their arms like mine.

i have one chin hair too! and two random pubic hairs that seem to be trying to escape from the pack. you know what always happens to the stragglers of the group...!

i think every woman has a slight fuzz on the upper lip, but now that i am nearing 40 i have started plucking it as it is darker. my eyebrows do not need plucking but they grow hilariously long and need trimming.

hey, did you all know that PCOS and ovarian cysts of all sorts can lead to hormonal issues and masculine hair growth? might be worth checking out if you have issues.

I'm incredibly hairy and it's very dark. A gynae looked at me and said I definitely had PCOS, due to the hair, but the tests came back negative and my testosterone levels are normal. I had IPL hair removal done on my face and arms. The hair on my face grew back as bad as ever, but the arm hair is much less noticeable. My 5yr daughter's also really hairy, but it's much fairer than mine.

Last edited by Mummy_of_Peanut on 11 Jun 2011, 5:01 pm, edited 1 time in total.

you can do electrolysis. it is good for small amount of dark hair. I was thinking of doing it for my brows (monobrow issue) but then I found threading. In the threading parlor they always ask me about the upper lip but I never do it.

For body hair, I recommend laser. I did my lower legs and it was a relief. Even if it doesn't remove all the hair, it weakens it and it looks more "normal". I looked recently and it seems that there are laser hair removal systems that are noncommercial and efficient.

I have a lot of hair, and hair removal has always been a real issue for me because of my extremely sensitive skin. I'm fine with shaping my eyebrows but doing anything to my legs will often cause me to break out in hives.

I've been considering laser hair removal, and would get it in a heartbeat if healthcare covered it and if I weren't poor. Other hair removal techniques have caused lots of issues for me though, like folliculitis, so I'm crossing my fingers.

Yes, i get it on my chin and upper lip. I trim every other day. Good thing my hairs are blonde so they don't stand out as much. >.<

I have PCOS as well and would also recommend threading. I have my face threaded once-per-month, at first I found it excruciating but it's much more tolerable now.