Question for female asexuals about the gyn/ob

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I have have not had sex in 11 years and quite frankly that is fine with me. Everytime I have had sex in the past...I turn into freakin basketcase and things usually go downhill fast in the relationship. For a long time I said my libido was in a coma, but I later found out that I am asexual.
Well my peroid was 2 1/2 months late and with my mother's history of uterine tumors...I thought that it would be a good idea to get checked out. I did find the pelvic exam to be very painful, so she decided that I needed a vaginal ultrasound instead (if you dont know what that is, look it up...I am not explaining due to the guys browsing through here) Anyway the weirdest thing happened...during the ultrasound...it did not feel the least bit sexual...it was like the lady was examining any other part of my body...though it was alittle painful. It was like the assocation of that part of my body as sexual, just did not exist.
Have any of you had this experience?

I do tend to think of myself as asexual. Never had a partner, and never wanted one. Also never wanted kids. I would have made a lousy wife and mother, but since I never wanted to be either, not having either has never bothered me. Sure it would be nice to be a normal person with a normal life, but my reality does not include normal, and I faced that fact decades ago. I am a solitary, hermit type person, so having a partner and kids doesn't fit me.

On the medical issue I had one Ob/Gyn exam when I was about 20 and then none for decades. Then, about 6 1/2 years ago I started having them again after I developed a female bleeding problem. They are extremely uncomfortable. I read recently, possibly in a post here, that for those who have a problem with the speculum, we should ask that the doc use a pediatric one, as it is smaller. I also had an ultra sound 6 1/2 years ago to find out about the bleeding problem. Neither type of pelvic exam has a "sexual" feel to them for me. They just feel very uncomfortable. My bleeding problem was treated with a DNC procedure on Halloween 2005. I got a call from a worried doc on voting day 2005. The biopsy done on what they cleaned out during the DNC showed that I had cancer. At the beginning of Dec 2005 they took out everything, and I have have been cancer free for almost 6 1/2 years now. I had a chuckle when filling out forms at the hospital. One of the forms was a consent/release form indicating that in signing it I was declaring that I understood I would no longer be able to have kids after the hysterectomy. That's a no brainer. I wonder if any one has ever sued over that after having every thing explained to them beforehand?

Thanks for the advice about the pediatric speculum. What kind of bleeding problem did you have? Your lucky that they found the cancer before it spread. My Grandfather is dying from an aggresive lung cancer, stage 4.
I find those obvious warnings to be really funny too. I once read "dont put food in the tape deck" on VCR instructions. You know someone has done it. I never wanted kids, although I am not aromantic and would not mind an asexual partner.