Trouble Feeling Attractive?

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I've always kinda had self esteem issues, (the constant bullying for most of my school life is likely a culprit) but lately I have been feeling really ugly and unattractive. I a lot of my female Facebook friends complain about being hit on so much by random guys IRL. I've never been hit on by a guy IRL, even when I try to dress up and look pretty to go to the mall in hopes that some guy might hit on me. It seems like the times I do that some (not trying to be rude but I don't know how else to say it) ugly girl who looks like she rolled out of bed 15 minutes ago gets hit on.

I don't know what I am doing wrong. I just want to be attractive and have guys notice me. I mean I'm not looking for the constant attention of guys or anything, but I haven't had a single guy since I was maybe 15-16 hit on me in real life (unless I met him online first). I know that a guy should like me for my personality, not just my looks, but I wouldn't mind being noticed for my looks sometimes (especially when I am trying to look pretty/attractive).

I don't know, its just seeing all these girls being hit on and stuff and me never hit on me makes me feel unattractive and ugly. I'm currently trying to lose weight in an effort to look better (I know I should be doing it to be healthy but honestly I'm not).

Anyone have this problem too or have tips on how to change this problem?

I think eye contact and body language has a lot to do with it. I never figured it out. I am married now. There are times we will go to a business function together and wind up in seperate conversation groups. Later, after the event we will talk about it. There is always a part in the debriefing where he says "didn't you realize so and so was flirting with you?" And my response is "no, how do you know that? I thought he was just being nice".
Hope this is helpful