the Adult section is mostly men posting lately. why?

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i have been noticing that very few women are participating in Adult Autism Issues at the moment. there are women posting everywhere else. you might be reading the threads but very few of you are responding to threads. how come?

i might move this thread to General Autism Discussion if it doesn't get much of a response here. but i wanted to try the area that had the most women first. funny thing - i was going to ask this question in the Adult section itself, then i realised how silly that would be, seeing as how you are not posting in there right now!! !!

I just never have much desire to talk about that kind of stuff publicly.

did you used to post in there, or did you always stay out of it?

]i am trying to figure out what is different now, compared to before.

Regardless of gender if you're not a moisture dripping hypersexual it's pretty boring in there.

I never did, sorry, irrelevant input

Were there a lot of women posting before, or perhaps a few women posting a lot, who no longer contribute so much to the forum in general? Just a thought.

yeah, good point. it should be renamed the Sex talk forum.

yellowtamarin, good question. hmmmmm now i wonder about that. i think the women who posted in there were mostly heavy participants who only posted in there and L&D & Random & Haven, for example. but they were not necessarily a lot of women, just frequent posters.

It should be called the "Sex, Drugs and Rock n' Roll" subforum.

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sex dosen't interest me much.

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Well, I asked one question there and got it answered, and then some. TMI.

I don't find a lot of the topics relateable, personally. I don't feel like bumping when horny, or knowing the supposed health benefits of breast oogling. What questions that do come up seem more pertinent to the women's discussion.

This states it very well for me, too. Plus, I just feel, well, too OLD to be there. A lot of the topics are juvenile (and posted just for the 12-year old factor) or are young-male-centric so it's kind of "been there, done that". Even the "Ask a Question!" section is deathly boring.

ill agree it is deathly boring. especially when you consider its not really adult or sexual talk most of the time. its just random banter with more swearing and the occasional sex related talk. theres nothing adult about that forum besides the 17 minimum

I think it's due to a bunch of factors. Some of the regular posters are busy or gone. There isn't as much activity. A lot of ppl aren't brave enough to start threads and if their is nothing to reply to ppl won't post. WP in general seems to have this problem, particularly the members section.

The current topics in AAI aren't as applicable to me personally. A thread comparing penis size isn't applicable to any women except those who are pre-op transgender. Just like L&D, it's a very male dominated section, just due to the nature of the topic and the greater number of male members. (No pun intended.)

For more women to be comfortable posting, their needs to be more women posting. Someone needs to start. There needs to be several women, posting consistantly, to pave the way for others.

and that post summarises the problem. If you dont find that any threads relate to you then start your own threads that do. Its not like only 12 year old men are the only ones allowed to make threads.

for me, i used to post more in there, but i found there are fewer and fewer members in Adult who think along similar lines to me. it isn't just women, because i used to disagree with a lot of women in there. but i don't seem to hold the same ideas as the majority who are currently posting in there, so i feel conspicuous. i am a bit too serious and not "fun".

Yes, me, too. The banter-y stuff is boring to me, I think because I *am* older and not used to living my life online. Okay, that sounds snottier than I mean it; I just tend to see a generational divide between those who post every waking moment online (and it's expected and lauded) and those who do not come from such a time.

Further, I don't tend to post in *any* section unless I feel I can contribute something meaningful or helpful or at least have a strong opinion about it. The Adult topics have left me very much "meh" in the last year or so.

I have no issues starting a thread if I want to, it's just that I'm not that into sharing unnecessarily (see first paragraph). I've lived a longer, more experienced life than some other members (at least how they present themselves online); I wonder if I'd ever have any questions about life where I'd need their perspective.