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Nikkster26
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26 Sep 2012, 7:45 pm

It seems like my obbsession are so stupid I get so frustrated that I can't stop thinking about them. It enterfears with my everyday life, I ignore my son and husband a lot because I'm so obsessed. I just don't know what to do :( my current obsessions include nail polish and painting my nails and looking at makeup blogs. A couple months ago it was natural soap bars from etsy and I didn't wear makeup at all or cared about make up. Before that it was candy in etsy. And when my son was a baby I was obsessed with cloth diapers. I just don't know what to do to make these thoughts stop. I find comfort in my obsessions I don't know what I would do with out them. Who knows what will be next. I feel crazy



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26 Sep 2012, 8:17 pm

Well, I've heard that people can get locked into addictive behaviors if they're trying to cope with some kind of anxiety or past trauma. So maybe you can lock down your computer somehow (keep it shut down or turn off the internet for the day) and make new feel-good habits that revolve around spending time with your husband and child. Find something that really holds your interest, the way your previous obsessions have.

If it's not anxiety-related, and you think it has more to do with ASD or hyperfocus (like what ADHD people experience), well, here's a bit of a linkspam of stuff that was in my bookmarks. (I don't have ADHD but I have some similar problems, and this stuff helps me cope with them a little.)

http://healthyliving.msn.com/diseases/a ... and-adhd-1
http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/612.html
http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/5716.html
http://www.edgefoundation.org/blog/2012 ... stination/



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26 Sep 2012, 8:31 pm

Thanks for the tips! I have a lot of anxiety like I can't looking at the clock wishing time would go by faster. I hate feeling bored which I think is part of the ADHD. Maybe it's a little of both. I hate feeling anxious. Thank you so much for the links :)



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27 Sep 2012, 1:20 am

That happened to me when I was going through stress. My obsessions took over so I felt I was neglecting my son. I would even forget to feed him. Then when I got better and things got less stressful, my obsessions got less. I think it was also anxiety related too that they got so strong they took over and it was very hard for me to control. But when I am calm, I have better control.


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27 Sep 2012, 6:19 am

I go into obsessive mode otherwise i cant get over the childhood trauma it does effect my date to date functioning but now my son as grown up and he got used to being sidelined.
But i have overcome much of my worst obsessions now i do have internet addictions though
without these obsessions i would be disfunctional how would i cope with my loneliness and past traumas


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27 Sep 2012, 6:39 am

I always develop obssessions around exam season when I'm just so stressed and I know that I should be revising but I can't bring myself to, otherwise I'd have no excuse for failing. Perhaps it could be related to feeling you're not good enough at whatever you are distracting yourself from? I know I do it a lot


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27 Sep 2012, 6:50 am

I often feel that my obsessions actually invites more stress into my life. But, at the same time, I can't really live without them. I'm obsessed with a certain bus company and the drivers that operate the bus routes, but I know full well that this will all change soon. They're going to put the bus in another company, I know it. I won't know any of the drivers, and they won't be the same as the current ones. I just love how it is now, but it won't stay like that. Making money is more important than the welfare of the public. So if the bus company can't afford to keep the service going, they will dump it into a f*****g snobby company, also known as First Group (pathetic name, isn't it?)

Good old TGM - most passengers love you!


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27 Sep 2012, 7:42 am

Can you change them onto other ones.

Couple years back, or maybe a year, I decided to only have practical interests. It was hard but I eventually made it work.

And I tell myself playing video games is research. It actually is... I've managed to make all of my interests 'research.'

What if your next obsession was in family or child care? Something to put that focus back on your husband and son.

Not telling you what to do, just throwing out some tips.


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