Does anyone else here like older men?

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I don't mean men that are just a few years older, but I mean a LOT older. I like men over 40 (including men in their 50s and 60s), maybe mid to late 30s if they look older. Many people have criticised because I'm only 22 and like men with grey in their hair or with wrinkles, but I think they turn me on a lot more than young men in their 20s. There are reasons behind why I like older men:-

-Men in their 20s still seem to have a ''baby face'', where their skin on their face hasn't got that coarse, and I like coarser skin on a man's face
-Men in their 20s seem on a different wavelength to the type that I like
-Men in their 20s never fancy me back, unless they are not my type, but older men do fancy me back or like me fancying them
-I have had some bad experiences with men in their 20s, they have laughed at me when knowing I like them, because they're looking for girls who make a lot of effort with themselves, the only ones what aren't so bothered about that are the ''geeky'' sort, and I don't like ''geeks'' (no offense)
-I don't even know any young men, my brother's friends don't fancy me, and a lot of them are girls anyway, and I have got a couple of male friends of my age but I only like them as friends

People do get on to me because I like older men. It's really annoying and quite upsetting. I often get lectured, and when a man I like speaks to me, people with me are like, ''uh....he had a bit of grey in his hair....'' and I'm just like, ''yeah, so? He does something for me.''
Besides, it's no good fancying these big tall young fellas with a cocky expression what most young girls scream after, because we all know full well that those sorts of men know they are good-looking and will not take any notice of a plain-looking idiot like me. Older men care more about personality than looks, and they tend to get attracted to my ''flirty'' way, and also aren't bothered about whether I wear make-up or not, or whether I'm going around looking like a Barbie doll or not. That's the way I see it anyway, and I have experienced better times with older men, like if they're descent enough not to take advantage of me then they just chat to me and make me feel confident in myself, where as every young man I have ever fancied have never even given me a chance.

Does anyone else agree, and do you fancy older men? What do you say if your friends find out and start criticising you into ''finding someone your own age''?

I like older men for the same reasons you mentioned.
Also they are mature, they know the world more, they are good at decision making

I had a major crush with a guy i met in my spiritual class
He was 12 years older then me i am married and so was he.
We had a heavy crush on each other would just talk with each other
on phone and then cut off abruptly.

He was charming, smart, mature and intelligent
I would love to date him
Only thing bad about him was that he was extrovert.

Anyways i find my hubby quite immature and bad decision maker.
He is just 4 years elder to me...

There's definitely online forums for this kind of thing, Joe90. And yes, it's common.

I prefer older men cos of their maturity level and their energy level is not as high as younger men (my age). I just can't seem to click with younger people.

i don't know how common it is, but there have been several young women who have expressed their interest in me over the years. most of them - but not all - were students of mine.

i think it is completely wrong that people criticize these young women for their feelings, and i can not understand why people think they have the right to criticize!

Older men are just so mature. They've got over that "I want a girl who makes me look like I could get anyone, look how hot and pretty and caked in makeup she is".

It makes me sick that guys my own age just can't see past the fact that I don't wear makeup and don't really care what I wear as long as I feel comfortable.

Older men care about personality and what you're really like. I think they are also more accepting of AS and tend to be more interested in making life a little more bearable.

So, I couldn't agree with you more.

Well, another point is, every time a young man has showed me a girlfriend, they always look like a beauty queen; well-groomed hair (straightened or curled perfectly), lots of make-up on (they put so much foundation on that their face looks orange), extreme trendy clothes, and well painted nails. My male cousins (who are around my age) have always brought girlfriends round who fit the exact same description. But often when my older male relatives have brought round a girlfriend, I could never predict what the girlfriend will look like. It gives you more of a surprise, and anyway, this may sound ironic, but I've learnt that an older woman who doesn't have this strong glamour about her, is actually more friendlier than a young girl caked in make-up and has perfect hair. Often when my male cousins have brought their girlfriends round, I hardly ever spoke to them because they either sat there staring in the mirror and grooming themselves, or staring at their phone. But when my older relatives have brought their girlfriends round, I've found myself being more able to talk to them.

I talk to loads of men in their 40s, 50s and 60s, and they are much better to talk to. Even if they do still come across as charming and cocky, it's still on a slightly different scale to younger men. I have a crush on a man in his late 50s with curly dark hair with grey in, and has a beer belly, and even if he doesn't fancy me back he still enjoys talking to me, and feels rather flattered that I'm not another naive silly little giggly girl going after his sexy young colleague, who is skinny, has no muscle or fat on him whatsoever, and has so many stupid girls screaming for him that it just gives him the ''ah, look at me, I'm so good-looking, they all love me!'' expression, what just annoys me. At least I can have this older man all to myself, and he likes me for who I am!

I have always liked men who are older by at least 10 years. It almost always ends up being about the maturity level though - it makes it much easier.

Several guys my own age or a little younger have surprised me by the level of maturity they have shown, but it does tend to be extremely rare.

I went to the pub with my dad one Friday night, and him and his friends just sat around the table drinking beer and watching the football and talking about the football. If they weren't talking about the football, they talked about things like work and other general things.

But when I went to the pub with my brother, it was stupid. A lot of the youngsters got stupidly drunk, and all they talked about was who has got the most drunk, and who fancies who, and there were so many silly shenanigans that I didn't know whether I was coming or going.

I'd much rather accompany myself with older men.

Yes, 10 years older more or less. I feel more comfortable, I can talk with them. Same happens with men I meet who are younger than me, they usually are funny and respectful, and with some of them I share a bunch of interests. But men I dated of my own age only wanted one-night stands, were quite demanding and rude and never wanted to talk about anything. I feel completely displaced between men of my generation, and it has been this way always. Strange.

I prefer older men too.

My current boyfriend is in his mid 30's and I am in my mid 20's. We get along great and most of the time I totally forget that he is older. I am the one with more life experience and a high maturity level but we match very well. I also have a second man that I see (semi poly relationship going on) and he is in his 50's.

I can get along well with men of all ages but prefer men a lot older then me. I just find them more attractive and we share more in common. I am into most things 80's and early 90's so most people my age just have no idea about the topics i am talking about.

If I would be into men that are a lot older me I would end up with a senior citizen. Not something I want for myself at the moment.

A few years younger would be nice but since I am not exactly a femme fatale that's probably very unlikely.

It's just a # I suppose ?

You can respond to them "I'm autistic I am closer to their age"

I'm just pleased you can "relate" to some one of any age I wish i had that skill .

I relate to my pets

I like older guys too, I always have.

I like a guy 15/20 years older than me and I suppose it's because he treats me like an adult and not like an object. Unfortunately he has a girlfriend about his own age.

Well I've kind of given up on dating all together for now......so I'm not z'scouting for a mate' but when I was looking for a mate, yes, I preferred much older men.