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23 Oct 2012, 3:10 pm

So over the last week, I've cried three times. I realize that lately I've been feeling depressed but I cant stop the tears and it gets really embarrassing when its in front of counselors or authority. You get to a certain point where you dont want to put up with getting misunderstood anymore. I just cry, I dont want to continuously defend myself anymore. I wish I could stop the tears from coming but its hard. Sometimes it works, but more often then not, it doesnt. Anybody else have a problem with crying too much?



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23 Oct 2012, 4:39 pm

Hey, I get weepy too, especially when I'm off my meds or really broke. My psychiatrist asked me if I wanted to try to go on disability when I told him I cried all the time at work. I said no, because I can still do my job, even though I'm crying. Nobody sees me.


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23 Oct 2012, 4:42 pm

I cry too much. I spent half the week-end crying this week. I usually cry because of feeling sorry for myself, or worrying about assumed change that is likely to happen beyond my control. I also worry about losing my special interest, which is a certain bus service that I love getting (well, the main part of the special interest is the drivers that operate it), and I really don't want something bad to happen where I will end up never seeing them again. I know it will happen anyway in time but I don't want it to yet and it often makes me cry.

And yes, I do cry so much that I almost dissolve tissues with my tears. So I know how you feel.


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23 Oct 2012, 5:01 pm

It happens. Especially as a young adult. I'm not sure if it has to do with being AS or not. I'm sure our meltdowns might contribute. It IS freakin' depressing to not belong.
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23 Oct 2012, 5:17 pm

I have always cried alot, or at least very easily. I have not been able to keep it in though. The worst thing I think was if I was trying to hold in crying and someone says "Are you ok?" and you have to try say you're ok but you're clearly not ok and that usually is so stressful it makes me cry anyway.

I know it is hard to cry in front of people, it is much better to get it out at home, but for awhile there I couldn't help it. I was crying in every dr's office. A year later, it has gotten better, I don't cry every time I have therapy, just sometimes when we talk about hard stuff.

It will get better, try not to be too hard on yourself about it.


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23 Oct 2012, 6:28 pm

I cry when I've been off my antidepressants too long and am sleep-deprived.



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24 Oct 2012, 12:37 pm

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24 Oct 2012, 12:44 pm

I very rarely cry. I really just can't. Maybe at funerals I can cry. I can cry when I'm really drunk but otherwise I just can't. One good thing about not crying much is that when I do cry, people take me very seriously.

I'd say be glad you can cry. I've always heard it's very cathartic.


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24 Oct 2012, 2:20 pm

OliveOilMom wrote:
I very rarely cry. I really just can't. Maybe at funerals I can cry. I can cry when I'm really drunk but otherwise I just can't. One good thing about not crying much is that when I do cry, people take me very seriously.

I'd say be glad you can cry. I've always heard it's very cathartic.


Yeah, I don't mind crying but in private. But I keep bursting out into tears in front of counselers, authority figures, co-workers, etc to the point where it is embarressing. I really dont like people thinking Im that sensative and that Im just a baby. Sometimes the sensativity, perceived inconfidence sheilds the bitchy interpretation of me. I dont know? One thing I learned about the NT world, its all about learning to work people in your favor.



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24 Oct 2012, 3:24 pm

Sometimes. If something has upset me deeply, I cry about it. I hate it. I try and hide it.


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24 Oct 2012, 4:38 pm

The only thing that tends to make me cry, is grief over dead loved ones. That can make burst out in a cry years later.
I'm not embarrassed about crying over that, and I don't care who sees it. I miss them, so i cry.
I very seldom cry for anything else.

But my chronic eye infection makes one of my eyes water quite a bit. It has made people think I'm crying in the past.


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27 Oct 2012, 4:19 pm

I cry too easily over the smallest of things. And just as easily in public places too which is extremely embarrassing, something small can bother me or I can have a change of emotion in the middle of town and I can't stop the tears streaming as I'm trying to go about my day.


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27 Oct 2012, 5:49 pm

I cry more easily when I'm off birth control than when I'm on it, so it probably has to do with hormones in my case. Luckily people who know me don't expect me to be socially available all the time, so I can just retreat to somewhere private until I get a hold of myself. It's pretty embarassing - I sometimes cry even for pathetic, emotionally manipulative tv shows and movies, even when I can tell that I'm being manipulated to do so. Other times, I probably should cry and don't. I'm good at turning my emotional reactions off in medical emergencies.



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28 Oct 2012, 12:26 am

I've always cried during meltdowns. When I started puberty, I started crying a lot easier, more uncontrollably, and as time went on, more publicly. I think it's helped with meltdown prevention, but doesn't help me not be embarrassed. :oops:


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