How do you react to sexual jokes?

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Not only jokes, but any kind of remark that references your gender for no apparent reason.

I hate that. A guy in my school used to do that. For example, we'd stand outside and talk and he'd have to (indirectly) bring up that I'm a woman several times, though the conversation wasn't related to gender in any way.

Also, I have no problem with sexual jokes and can laugh about even the darkest, dirtiest humour - but not when someone's sexuality is directly being adressed. For example: We were in gym class, currently in rather, uh, suggestive positions, and one guy said something like "bet you like that position". Or that one time, when someone indirectly asked me whether I was still a virgin.

I'm 100% percent sure the guys I'm talking about were not in any way attracted to me, so I don't think it was meant as some kind of flirting. But stuff like this is so goddamn annoying.

You better get used to it. Men do that a lot. It is offensive and I really hate it (and I do not like the word hate). Those are not jokes. Those are predator attacks. You are their victim. You are not supposed to laugh. The only come back would be to attack back, but I would not go that way. What I used to do was ignore the person and if he was not taking to me or give an ice-cold look. But usually they do not even care and they will carry on. If someone asks you about your virginity you have four options: 1) say "thats not of your --- business", 2) tell the truth, 3) lie, 4) give a harsh comeback like "didnt your brother (father, uncle, whatever) told you about the time we did it in your bed?".

Acutally, it does sound as if the guys involved were making mild attempts to hit on you, to see how you would take it. If you seemed interested, then they would probably make a blunter offer. If any one guy does it repeatedly, then he is not taking your lack of interest seriously, and is trying to get you to warm up to him, as he wants a relationship. The guy at the bus stop seems to fit that. If you really don't want to keep hearing sex jokes and sexual references, just tell any guy who does it that "guys who tell sex jokes and make sexual references are immature, and REAL men don't do that in mixed company."

If a guy trys to make a sexual joke, I usually reply with something 10 times worse than what he said!

I dont mind sexual jokes for the most part but if someone were to refer directly to me, I sometimes answer them if I feel ok about it. If I dont, I just dont give them a straight answer. Just sorta play it off. But then I dont hold it against them unless I feel like there a downright pervert.

I don't mind jokes and I laugh about it with them if I believe they are joking. If I get the feeling that they are talking trash to me, I talk it right back to them but worse. Then I laugh. If you do that and laugh like you are laughing at them instead of showing anger, you win.

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Ah, let's just say I come up with something worse than the intended joke.

I try to keep it to innuendos to such topics, but if they go for the naughty joke then It's like being told it's fine to tell a better one with him.
Just remember at the end of the day you want to have enjoyed the experiences you had.

As in knocking on my gender? I ignore it. I don't really care. As in just plain innuendo and sexual references? I still ignore it. I hung out with a lot of boys when I was younger, so I'm kinda immune to it.

I'm pretty sure my answer will be unique so I didn't bother with the details of your question.

STEP ONE: Learn all you can about women's health/body.
STEP TWO: Get a "I don't care what you think cause you ain't worth meh time" Attitude.
STEP THREE: When boy makes comment about your boobs, make comment about nipple erections! When he makes comment question about your vagina, answer precisely and emotionlessly!
Example: "So.. are you tight?"
"I've been told I'm pretty tight, but thats puzzles me cause only big men seem to please me."

STEP FOUR: Watch dumbfounded or confused face before walking away or asking "Anything else?" Feel confidence build

Step five: If the above steps appall you to no end, walk away and or slap guy after he makes question/comment. Approach nice man sitting at computer and make chit-chat.

I actually enjoy talking and learning about sexuality/sexual things, so if I have offended you I'm sorry.
But I hope I made you laugh despite my total seriousness.

My reaction usually depends on who it is, how well I know them and such. If it's immature teasing/flirting like he's trying to hit on me, then I'm like "You wish."

Although with some guys, that's like dumping kerosine on an already lit fire. Sometimes I've been known to tease back and watch the guy go cuckoo out of frustration.

Although sometimes I have done the DeathByMonkeys approach with success as well.

I don't tend to get mean ones, so I usually just laugh them off. Actually, I probably joke about sex far more than I should but, as a teenager, I do have an excuse. Nerdy pick up lines are my favorites. (Baby, let's integrate so I can investigate the area under your curves.)

But, if you do have problems, I would probably turn their joke back into an insult to them. (Did your mother teach you that? Or was it that whore you paid because you were desperate?)

I often think to myself "I don't think I should have heard that..."

I usually respond with an emotionless stare, which they then seem to fill in with their own shame at having said something inappropriate.