Why do people consider being single ''immature''?

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I've seen a pattern here on this Autism forum, where a lot of people here seem to think it's immature to not be in a relationship. I was speaking to a woman in her 50s the other day, and she said she hasn't had a relationship for 30 years and is still really happy. She lives on her own, is independant, goes out with her friends, goes away with her friends, and loves her job. I wouldn't call her immature. In fact she's sensible, especially after hearing about most people who I know are unhappy in relationships. Not saying everybody in relationships are unhappy, but I know of more people who are unhappy in relationships than happy in relationships. I don't understand why some people seem to think just because an adult is single, it means they are immature.

Hey, I remember you from one of my other posts

It's because it is anothering pressurising thing in our lives, that you should have a steady partner in your life at around that age and if not, there is apparently something wrong with you, like being immature or that you might have issues. Again, it's another thing not taught to society that they are people out there who genuinely are happy being single and even being virgins their whole lives. I have seen some posts on here where some people prefer to stay virgins because they dislike the idea of sex. And if they are happy being like that, then why not? They are not hurting anybody by being single, so why should it bother any of us?

Unfortunately it does. Again it's to do with pressure and opinions from people that might drive these people to get into relationships to keep other happy, but they end up being miserable.

I mean to be honest if I was to end up dying alone, I would not care. Because I would rather go thought life single and die alone, than get into a relationship because I have no other choice and end up unhappy with a person I clearly have no feelings for. I would be much happier single.

Of course I do want a relationship with someone one day, don't get me wrong, it's just it has to be the right person. Not just some person I decide to pick last minute for a relationship because i have no one else, I would not be that desperate ha.

Well where I come from there are loads of people about who are single, and are still socially accepted. I think young people care more whether you've got a relationship or not, but most middle-aged people I have met don't care one way or another whether their mates are single or not.

It's just one of those notions people take up without thinking. Kinda like you're not a complete woman until you've had a child or that a woman shouldn't be taller than a man or that boys are better than girls. Bunch o' crap

Logic tells me otherwise so it must be hormones... LOL

Because they think getting a partner will make you more mature.

Nobody calls nuns immature.

For those who plan on settling down one day, but haven't yet, it may be a sign of immaturity or not yet being ready to do what they ultimately plan to do. Especially if others their age have done so.

But if it's not something you're interested in, then it's not really an issue of maturity.

The idea that you MUST have a partner is old-fashioned and dying out in the West. No serious people I know get married before 30, and I know plenty of adults who never married after that. Or at the opposite extreme, I know adults who had multiple partners over the years. I think the idea that you NEED a partner stems from the days when marriage was the only way to have sex. Clearly, that is no longer the case.

I always hate it in nice restaurants where people think that you should have a date or wife or girlfriend just to enter.

I usually just take something to read. If I don't take something to read, I end up staring at the people at other tables and make them nervous.

Perhaps what we need is an Asperger's escort service that provides male or female (whichever is preferred) escorts to go to the restaurant with you and not engage in meaningless small talk while there.

Wow! An aspie escort service. What a great idea! That sounds like a real business opportunity to me. Maybe you should start one up.

Ha true!

I`ll do it lol

QFT

I just started school this week and was talking with some girls from my floor. They all found it very odd that I'm not in any kind of relationship, and even stranger that I am a virgin. One of them actually said, "That's adorable!" I felt very childish and embarrassed, which I shouldn't- it's not a matter of maturity, it's that I have very little interest in that sort of relationship.

My relatives are constantly asking why I don't have a boyfriend, and when am I going to get one. I usually make some lame excuse and try to change the subject. I'm pretty sure they're all convinced I'm a lesbian...

I have always been single because I have never been interested in being in a relationship.

What I don't understand is why relationship= better life and better person in the minds of some people.

I don't get why some couples feel like they are entitled to treat single people are being less important then they are. eg someone wrote into a newspaper here (this newspaper is given out at the train station). basically saying "single people, this valentines day spend time with your loved ones and stop trying to ruin our fun with your negativity". I mean really ! Do they seriously think single people are all pathetic and miserable creatures with nothing better to do then ruin their fun?

My uncle once asked me this. To which my mum replies "it's called having sense!"

I have had people ask me a lot why I'm not with someone. I am rarely interested in someone like that. The last person I had any sort of interest in, told me he doesn't want another long distance relationship.