Lackluster marriage

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I had a arranged marriage 10 years ago. I didnt know my husband and our marriage was fixed by our parents
I feel very lonely even though i have a partner.
he doesnt talk much with me,
All the time he is glued to the TV
He answers me in monosyllables
Since i dont like to socialise with relatives and his friends
he stopped attending social gatherings due to which we
are loosing quite a lot of social friends
I asked him to attend the function minus me...but he doesnt budge
I really need someone to talk with me, someone to guide me, someone who can
be more mature and sensible then me

My husband is the opposite i often have to advice him to do sensible things
he isnt mature and makes wrong decisions, he is impulsive and ends up
doing wrong things
Also he is dumb and often people fool him

But the worst part is the lack of communication.
how long are we going to live in the same house without talking or communicating
with each other
I know most of the arranged marriages are like this only
But atleast other women have their friends, mothers, sisters to communicate with.
Whereas i dont have that.

I feel like leaving my hubby and living separately

Marriage is something both partners have to invest in. When one person is doing most of the work, then resentment settles into the relationship.

Are you committed to making the marriage work? is he? or are you looking to separate/divorce?


You have been together for 10 years, was it always like this? If not, then what changed?

People change and due to those changes, you have to fall in love with your partner over and over again through the years.
This isn't easy to do if you do not feel a connection with him. Let him know how you feel and see if he is willing to change how he interacts with you.
Remember that it takes 2 to make a marriage work and take responsibility for your role in the relationship. If he takes responsibility for his role as your husband, then your marriage has a chance.

As for socializing, try Meetups and look for a new interest, book clubs, knitting, dancing, hiking etc., job or even better volunteering.

Best of luck.