Anyone Here Want Kids or Trying to Conceive?

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I've seen a lot of posts here about being disgusted/grossed out at the thought of pregnancy, or not wanting to be a mom- but am I the only Aspie/Autist that actually wants a child? Are there any others out there?

I want children. Even if I cannot conceive I would like to adopt.

Actually starting, at begin of July my copper IUD will be removed. Actually I do know in theory much about biology and pregnancy, so right now the thought of it doesnt really scare me that much. Finally I can use kids as excuse for gaining weight and eat everything I ever wanted to eat. (I was just kidding with my partner. ^^)

nebrets- That is awesome! I really hope I'm able to conceive, as I don't think adoption would work well for me. I have a hard time connecting to others, but I think if they are a part of me tis' a different story. But if you can do that, that is awesome!

Schneekugel- How exciting! I had a miscarraige in Jan 2012, unplanned, and have since been trying to concieve, but hubby just came on board at the beginning of this year. I'm so impatient though! Haha. On the other hand, instead of eating everything I want, I've been drinking green smoothies everyday so that my body is healthier than normal. I can't get to doing regular exercise, but I am confident that my body is getting decent nutrition.

I want children, but I want to get a degree and job first.

I want children, but not for a few years. I want to be on my own for a while and do some of the things I've always wanted to do first; I can't tell you how many mothers I know who wished they'd done that. Plus I want to wait until I can prove that I can take care of myself before I try to take care of a kid.

Chibi- Yea... I'm 24. Got married at 21, and hubby wanted to wait 3 years. Now we're worse off than we were before, as now I can't work, but I'm so done with the waiting thing. Or I want to be anyways. I dont' think I'm pregnant this month either, my period is in a fw days and I'm totally dreading it. *sighs* But good for planning!

shaybugz- It's been a long time since I've heard someone say they wanted children right away . There are a lot of unplanned/ surprise pregnancies where I live, so most of the time I hear the mothers say they wish they'd waited till after they'd done some of the things they wanted to (career, travel, etc.). I hope everything goes well for you, best of luck.

Chibi- Thanks! I would have gladly tried after 1 year of marriage... but hubby didn't want to. Of course, I'm never what one considers normal.. I was hoping there were a couple ladies on here that are trying to conceive, as I don't get along with the neurotypical people that are trying to conceive well. They judge alot...

I already have a child. He was planned.

Because of what? The general wish of having kids, or because of you having Aspergers or...?

Happily its not that bad for me, so the family of my partner had for years great issues accepting me, but in the end and after lots of struggles they accept now, that my partner has chosen me as his partner, and does not want to be in an relationship with someone he dont like, but that is prefered by them. ^^

Because of him being almost the only kid of three grandparents, -uncles, and -aunts, and most of them being really old right now, most of them seemed to be very happy, when we told them that we are planning kids, and it seems to me, that they will support us. Its a good thing, so I was always afraid that I would fail fulfilling the needs of an NT-kid, specially if it will become an typical NT-girl, but there will be a hyper-NT grandmother, that will happily spend hours with a female grandkid with hairdressing and buying nonsense stuff, and testing (fashion non-real) jewelries and all that stuff. ^^ I think she already has a role as "the cool grandma that buys me at birthdays the cool brandstuff that dumb ma wont buy me, because of her not being able to understand how absolutely necessary such items are". XD

I have a 15 month old daughter and I am hopeing to try for baby number 2 in July!

I have two kids and I'm pregnant again, and yes, it was planned. I always wanted a family of my own.

Schneekugel- A combination of both. I said above that it was my husband's idea to wait for children, and had we not waited, we would have been in a better spot in life for trying to conceive. There's a lot of judgement coming at me because we are no longer in a great place, and yet still trying to conceive. My family isn't supportive at all, and his family is ok with us having kids- but doesn't think it should be pushed.

And then there's the fact that I process things differently than the NT's do, and think differently, and so that almost always gets me in trouble too on group boards. There's a few NT-people that are trying to conceive that I get along with well one-on-one, but on group message boards... it's generally a mess :-/.

YoshiPikachu- Awesome! How long did it take you to conceive the first time? Are you trying for another girl, or boy this time? Or does it matter?

Forkful: Congratulations on your 3rd! When is he/she due?

Thank you! Baby is due Dec. 10. We don't know the sex yet, we'll hopefully find out at my ultrasound on July 10.

Are you doing anything to help you conceive like tracking your cycles and temperature, using ovulation predictors, things like that? They can help but some people get really obsessive about it.

I think you'll find a lot of us on the Parents Forum