Do you like older men?

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Hi

Just wondering if it is common for Aspie females to like older men, personally I have never found those the same age appealing.

Don't mind me. I'm just sitting here making a list of women I'd like to meet.

I do, because kids my age are immature, and I don't understand people my age at all. I've had a huge crush on a 21 year old for over a year. I kind of wish I didn't, because I know that he probably just thinks I'm weird.

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The term "silver fox" is pretty much the male equivalent of "cougar." I don't think it's an Aspie thing.

I've never been into significantly older men, so one more strike against.

I believe Aspies can tend not to conform to the stereotypes of their own age group, so it would make sense for a fair number to be attracted to older men as they would be more likely to be on the same wavelength.

I don't have a particular preference. I like older, younger, and same.

It is not related to AS, in any way.

It is just related to your preferences and personality.

Oh yes, I did when I was younger, but now I'm getting older I'm finding I'm attracted to men my own age. I wouldn't date over 50. But you never know...

I've always found that older me were more interesting that young guys who were only interested in socialising. I tend to have more in common with oder me too. But I tend to make friends with older women, rather than women my own age. I just feel like older people don't judge me like my peers do.

Yes and no. For the most part, older men have matured, calmed down, and ameliorated the excesses of their youth. They will want sex but they're not all over you the instant you get back from a date. They can actually talk about something other than football and cars. They understand that men and women should be partners and not adversaries. They are kinder, gentler, sweeter, and more understanding.

However, there are also still a significant number of "50-year-old teenagers", as I call them, who for whatever reason never got past the age of 18 or 19, mentally or socially or intellectually. Quite sad, really.

Yes, I prefer older men to youngsters of my own age. I find older men just attract me for some reason, and also I seem to attract them too.

I have an older man interested in me now (he's in his 40s, I think), and I have been criticised a lot. People say, ''why don't you go after lads of your own age?'' I hate it when people tell me that. I don't want a lad of my own age. I know chasing after older men doesn't sound ideal, but they tend to like me back. I guess being a young woman who doesn't care much for make-up and a fancy hairstyle is more attractive for an older man. Maybe it's because the older men get, the more they realise natural beauty is better. I think a lot of younger men in their teens and 20s think girls who cake their faces in make-up and turn their skin orange and dye their hair colours that don't suit them, are so attractive, that girls like me just get left in the dark.

Also I find older men are better to flirt with than young men. Young men seem to look for confidence in a girl (which explains why the only girls I know who have boyfriends are the confident extroverted ones), and older men prefer to get to know you and may get to like who you really are as a person.

Maybe I'm just generalizing, but it's seems to be common in my experience.

I've ended up with people younger than me more often than older but it wasn't deliberate

Most people are more mature than me anyway and I don't look my age either

I admire older men for their generosity and maturity, but I have encountered younger men with such traits, as well. Besides, I don't see myself with a man twice my age.

Nope. At my age (53), older men are basically OLD. I seem younger than my years, both physically and mentally, so I'm much more attracted to younger men. The one exception is that I LOVE gray beards and goatees. That gives the older guys an extra point or two.

Yes I guess they are, in years, but I've dated men in their 60's and it was fine. If a man is still fit and active, being 60-ish shouldn't be a problem.

I tend to get along better with adults in general, as for relationships I'm really not that experienced. Have had a couple of minor crushes, before, but now there's this guy I can't take my mind off. He's way too old for me, at least for a couple of years.

Yes! I always had a weakness for older men. Don't know why, but i do. Don't have 'daddy-issues' or something like that. I just always liked man who are at least 10 of 20 years older than me. I once had kind of a relationship with an older man. He was 42, i was 19. And when i was 20 i had 2 'affairs' at my work by 2 different man in the age of 50. Despite i like older man, i think age is just a number. I'm married now, and my husband and i differ just 6 years in age (i'm 29 he's 35). I always say to him: whoop whoop, 5 years from now, and you'll turn 40! me i like! Just the idea alone turns me on Lol, he doesn't like it when i say that, but i can't help it. I find it VERY attractive!