Cougars and Cougar cubs

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Let's hear a big shout out for attractive younger men.

Who else here likes 'em young ?

At 31 I'm too young to be a cougar, but I do seem to "hit it off" much more easily with younger guys than with older ones.

For me, age isn't a huge factor of attraction in and of itself.

However, I have various interests which seem more common among younger guys rather than older ones.... most notably playing a lot of computer games and being into anime & manga.

I also look a great deal younger than I am (I often get mistaken for 21 or 22... LOL !) , so even guys who are 25 tend to assume I'm considerably younger than they are.

I never really kept up with my peers, and feel much younger than I am.
A lot of my peers are heavy alcohol drinkers, and have been for at least ten years... and many of them have never even played a computer game, which leaves me struggling to find common ground at times.

I often seem to assume that guys who I meet are about the same age as me or only a couple of years younger... but then I'll find out that they're like, 20 or something.

Attractive younger guys are just great, as far as I'm concerned !

The last guy I went out with was 25, and he was rather astonished to discover how old I am as he'd been assuming that I was younger than him.
You wouldn't have thought there was an age gap at all, to see how we got on together.

If you're happy and you know it clap your tentacles.....

I tend to get along better with significantly older women or younger women. mostly older women.

Why?
The way I see it is very simple.
Theres less pressure on both of us.

When you meet someone your age theres some sort of sexual tension most of the times and its just too awkward imo. This tends to dissapear when theres a significant age gap between the two of you.

Now that said there is a big step from getting along better with some sort of people to actually pursuing a relationship with them.


For example:
When I was 20 I was invited to this graduation party of my 40something friend.
There were several people her age and one of them put her eyes on me.
We got along fine and we laughed a lot and we had fun(somehow ended up playing musical chairs, we teamed up and beat almost everyone, it was hilarious to see her trying to hold a chair for me and stopping others from getting there and so on ) and she didnt actually expect that much from me(I wasnt at my best that night) but it felt weird.


I do have plenty of friends that are my mum´s age or older and I didnt dance with anyone below 63 this year(some retired female got me to say yes as a joke and she took it seriously, "mum" felt the need to show she was my closest older friend, my parents watched the whole thing and couldnt stop laughing) but anything more than a friendship sounds a bit weird right now.

I'm new to the concept. I mean, most of the guys I've dated have been a bit younger than me but not that much (up to 4 years). I've tried to stick to guys around my age because that seems more appropriate, but lately I've been thinking why not go for a younger guy? There are a lot of cute ones around! Haha.

Cougar me.

I seem to get along better with older women, they are usually more serious and down to earth than their younger counterparts, and conversations with them are usually more interesting. I don't have to censor myself so much in fear of boring them
Age by itself is the number of laps the earth has done around the sun since someone was born, rounded down. Although it is a good indicator of maturity and how far someone has gone in life, I don't think that number by itself should have great bearing: if someone looked like 25 and acted like 25 then she'd effectively be 25, from my point of view

I've only been introduced to the perks of younger men very recently since I have only ever dated older and by quite a lot previously - but it seems to work great as long as they are mature.
Sadly, I am still struggling with feeling like a cradle snatcher at the moment with the latest prospect despite the fact that he has more romantic and sexual experience than me.
There's something awesome about the fact that he hasn't learned to censor himself yet and is really honest about what he thinks and really throws himself into it (obviously he hasn't really been hurt before) - it's really cute.

My husband and I met through our church online and while chatting, he mentioned about me being a cougar... Well, it slipped past me with the replies and I didn't see it. He brought up the notion again and I still didn't get it... Didn't know what it meant at the time. Yea, I have a hard time with social sayings and such... So we hit it off fantastic and several years later, we're still going nonstop... He's 48, I'm 52 and everyone thinks I'm several years younger than he. :wink: Yea, can't help but smile. He's a real knockout inside and out and he just loves that I'm "his cougar". Mmmmm boy, just thinking about him, whew!

Honestly, I don't see the appeal. I mean, I can see that young men and women are *pretty,* but I don't find them *attractive.*

Boo: In other words, you think that the dynamic is driven by the attraction, or lack thereof, of the younger man?

I was propositioned a week ago by a kid barely half my age. I don't look twice as old as him, but I don't look his age, either.

Definitely not me. I'm in my 30s, but if I wanted to date a man I would want to date a older man, maybe a year up to 5 years older.