Sterilisation

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I am in mid 30's and we have a 9 year old kid
I find it difficult to raise a kid
the tantrums and chaos sends me in depression
my hubby spoils my kid left and right

all said and done
i want to opt for permanent sterilisation

pls suggest

Hello. Being a male from the U.S. I may not be the best person to answer this. I wasn't clear on what you were asking. All I can offer is my experience.

I am sterilized. I opted for the procedure before I had any children. There were a few major reasons, my... challenges ... being among them. I just didn't know what was "wrong" with me; I didn't know if it was genetic.

I knew from the experience of being around my six nephews and nieces that I would be just fine without children. It's been 13 years now and I have not regretted my decision. I have occasional pangs of jealousy when I walk through a park and hear kids playing, but they pass quickly. In fact, as soon as one starts screaming or crying I'm over it.

I check in with my wife periodically, every couple of years, to make sure that she also still does not want a child. If it came to it, we could always adopt a child. There are enough children in the world. She is still set against not having children, though. (Thankfully!)

I would urge you to speak with a counselor. Both about the decision, as well as about your feelings when your child melts-down. I'm completely unqualified in both areas. I do wish you luck in your quest for happiness, though.

thanks for replying

but my query was not about having child or not anymore
i dont need guidance of counsellor for the same

i have decided not to have anymore kids
as its taxing on mind
i dont want to end up getting pregnant again

my query was about the process of sterilisation
whether process is painful
risk involved
what care i have to take after process
side effects etc

its strange that u took tat decision
in india ppl wont take such a decision
even though they live in slum
in utter poverty
without source of livelihood
still they will produce 10 children

I suspect the choice was easier for me. I do not have to worry about food everyday. I have time to think about this decision and its consequences, and more importantly, I have the resources available to act upon it once I reached the decision.

Over-population is a challenge we as a world have to address soon enough.

can anyone tell me whether tubal ligation is done in laser also
as anyone tried laser ligation

Mine was just cut, seared and capped (no lasers). It was a little painful in terms of recovery (as are all abdominal surgeries), but the peace of mind that goes with knowing that I can't get pregnant makes me happy every day.

It's really not that bad, and knowing that you'll never have to go through pregnancy again is more than worth it.

I wish I could get sterilised but thanks to pushy do gooders changing legislation in regards to people with disabilities and sterilising in Australia it's very hard, thanks a effing lot Marion law. I'm highly intelligent and have really thought it through. Even when I was diagnosed with AS I wanted it done. Why bring more people in the world with my condition haven't I cost society enough already why increase the problem? Yet if I wanted to get a cosmetic procedure (nose, boob job) no problem.

Unrelated, but I've noticed a lot of Indian people spelling "that" as "tat". Why is that?