Monosyllable Husband.

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My hubby is busy working and he comes home late.
once he is home he slams in front of TV
and doesnt get up for long hours
he replies in monosyllables.

he works for health care centre
i have been telling him from a while tat i want
to get tubal ligation done
he doesnt reply anything
says that call up an nearby hospital get appointment
fixed
and get it done.

when i told him tat my mom and niece want to
waterpark on saturday, which one to go
he replies in monosyllables and nods
and like dumbo again no answer

its frustrating.......
i cant go on ...with this mute guy
i want a strong man
not a puppet

Probably work stress.

He probably has to be on the ball and talk to people constantly in his job.

His employer is called "healthcare center"- dont know what he does exactly- but it sounds like he is part of some communication hub, and he has to field calls all day.

So when he gets home is finally FREE, FREE, FREE, to be silent.


In contrast- you stay home with the little rug rats (kids) all day. So when he gets home you feel that you're finnally FREE to talk to another grownup. And talking is the last thing he wants to do.

And thats how the conflict arises.

Dont know how to solve it though.

i have the same trouble with mine... only to have him turn around and obsess over something that absolutely needs my attention the second that i start to feel the need to withdraw...

se la vi.

We could be married to the same guy. Mine's always been like that though, and I know never to try and talk to him about anything important while the tv is on, but that is every minute of the day that he's not at work or sleeping.

I'd suggest to wait till a commercial and say "I need to talk to you real quick while they are advertising" and then tell him what you have to say then and let him answer you. I've found that if my husband knows that he only has to engage in conversation and communication of any sort with me during commercials and we stop when the show comes back on, he's more willing to actually pay attention to what I say and give me an answer. It's kind of like he knows that there is an end to this conversation in sight and as long as we stop right when the show comes back on, and continue it at the next one if need be, he's good with that. It's talking, but in very small doses.

If you have Netflix or something, try to wait and get him between shows or ask him to pause it for three minutes to talk about something and actually keep it under three minutes.

Lots of guys are like that about talking, I don't know why. They aren't being mean about it and it's not that they don't care, it's just how they are. You have to find ways to work around it.

that would work... if we watched tv =p

normally each of us are reading articles or playing puzzle/video games. we worked out a method that seems to work though... basically we have a sign in the middle of the room... that reads:

OBSESSING PLEASE WAIT WILL RESPOND WHEN ABLE

what usually ends up happening is that one or the other of us forgets what we wanted to mention though before the other stops obsessing... and once the obsessing one responds... well you know how it goes

my biggest struggle with my hubby is keeping him fed... what the hell is with all guy having a singularity stored in their gullets in the first place?? i mean holy hell they can just pack food away like crazy. and no sooner do i finally finish picking at my food (i have lots of trouble actually eating foods) and he is hungry again