Anyone hate Mother's Day?

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Now that I am a mother, I sense I am going to start getting phone calls from people to wish me a mother's day. My uncles called and my aunt text me. I just hope no one else will call me. I hate talking on the phone and getting the interruptions and then having a chit chat. Man how annoying it must be for people to make tons a phone calls a day wishing different people a happy mother's day (those who have kids of course) so I am sure even NTs don't call every single person they know or else they'd be on the phone all day doing it.

Maybe I'm just lazy because I hate making phone calls and talking on the phone so I tend to slack off about it.

Honestly... Would you feel better if no one called you?

I am not a fan of mother's day. I get that stuff as well... random people calling all day. I do not like talking on the phone either. Then I have to call my own mom, my husbands mom... I am sure there are other mother's I am supposed to call who will be annoyed with me later because I did not call or pick up to talk to them because I was outside gardening or something. It is just a hassle. The phone is sooooooo not my friend...

I would feel better if no one called me. If they really want to give me a happy mother's day, they would leave me alone to enjoy the end of my weekend in peace. I understand they mean well, but sometimes people's good intentions annoy the hell out of me.

I had the best Mothers Day ever (but my kids are grown and my grandson is an infant so I did my time with the other kind).

They got me a Kindle and gave me the space to crawl in the corner and enjoy it!

Yay! I had a quiet day!

I'm not a fan of the phone either, sending or receiving, but text seems ok to me. I did call my Mom tho anyway.

I have grown to hate it. I lost my mother in 2009, and my daughter is practically estranged from me. She has lost her child to protective services, and it just about broke my heart. So, mother's day is just a chance for "well-meaning" people to cause me mental anguish with cheery requests to have a happy one.

I can't have kids, so Mother's Day is a reminder to me of the thing I can't have.

Hate it.

Though I'm on medication this year and it wasn't as horrible as previous years.

Then there's the whole social protocol on who to call who not to call. Kinda makes my head hurt.

Yes. I don't see it as a big day. It's just something for immediate families to share my like my husband and my kid.

But Mother's Day cards are the solution but I am sure it be annoying to have to send them out to every mother you know.

Hate it.

I still harbour a lot of resentment and anger towards my mum, and after a rather upsetting session with my psych on Friday, I didn't feel up to visiting my mum.

So I've probably made her angry, but she needs to understand what she put me through as a kid. However this is unlikely to happen.

this year was the worst Mother's Day ever! and it's not just because my relationship with my mom isn't 100% great. last Saturday, i went to a flower shop and asked to have it sent to my place where my auntie and grandma lives. it arrived to our place; however, the card was for someone else (when i clearly made that card for my aunt & grandma!) and my grandma and i were fighting. i called this flower shop to complain and they told me that they'll send the right card TODAY. and today ain't Mother's Day anymore, that's so f--ked up!

it just reminds me of the pitiful luck i had with relationships in the past and today. I also suspect i cant have children even if i did find "the one" because of something that happened to me when i was 15. I gained a lot of weight and all of a sudden i stopped getting my period.

I don't hate mother's day, exactly. I think needing a day every year to remind you to treat your mother well is a sign of the times.

With that said, I've been a mother for a little over 4 years now. I've never gotten tons of calls from people wishing me a happy mother's day, and I've honestly never heard that it's polite to do. Not impolite... just not expected.

Mother's Day used to be so hard because my mom died 17 years ago. Now that I am a Mommy, it's great and it's always around my oldest's (AS) Bday so we get to do what we want which is usually low key. People did blow up my facebook but it was nice to wind down late at night and type "happy mother's day" back. I don't usually do the phone thing and everyone knows but yeah, that would be annoying.

I don't like Mothers' Day either. My ex & I have 2 daughters, whom he got sole custody of by continually taking me to court until I ran out of money to fight. Since then, he kicked my oldest out at 16 years old. Neither of my kids acknowledged me this year. They celebrated the day with their dad's family. I'm just the piece of crap who brought them into the world. I grew up hating my mom because she was so abusive & hateful to me....now my kids hate me too. What a great day.

Why is your uncle calling you on mothers day? You're not his mother! It's for kids to call their mothers or give them a gift.

It's difficult for me because my Mom died when I was 12 and now my Grandmother is gone too. I don't have kids of my own and because of AS (self diagnosed) I don't think I would be a great mom myself. I don't know if I would mind all the phone calls if I was a mother although like a lot of you, I find phone calls and socializing in general can be a lot of effort. I think it's sort of the thought that counts and if NTs mean well with the calls and trips out, I wouldn't get too impatient with them. Cards are certainly a great idea though or a quick e-mail if phone conversation is particularly taxing for you. I really admire you aspie women out there who are moms and wouldn't want to imply that AS would stop you in any way, it's just with my particular bunch of "characteristics" I don't think I'd personally be up to it.

I always sent my hateful narcissist mother a nice present for 50 years, I never had a relationship with her and I consider her to be the meanest most hateful person I know. She manipulates everyone in the family , was so jealous of my relationship with my father whom I adored. There were never any bonding moments with her at all. I was totally ignored and she loved to see the hurt and pain she would cause me. I went no contact with her seven years ago after she shut me out of my dads sickness, death and funeral. I never got to even say goodbye to him. I never want to see her or speak to her again. I hope she rots in hell and on mothers day I do something just for myself. I am so glad that I don't have to put up with her crap any longer and there are definitely no warm fuzzy feelings on mothers day. As for the phone I despise talking on the phone and just want everyone to leave me alone. I trust no one now and can't really build friendships or relationships. I know now that I was taught at an early age the people who should love you will hurt you, I guess it is just a survival mode I have. I spend my holidays alone and just want to be left alone with my animal children, and my garden. I love to rescue baby animals and that is when I am truly happy, mothering a new baby kitten, pup, squirrel, raccoon, you name it if it needs a mommy I am there. I do envy people who have a great mom because they take it for granted she will always be there for them and never hurt them, A mother like mine affects every aspect of their childs personality. Congratulations to all of you that have a wonderful mom, my sympathy to the others like myself.