Androgeny

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As an adolescent, I was pretty sure I was a transexual because I couldn't identify with the girly girls. Hyper feminine women still make me nervous. Anyway, now I know that I'm actually right in the middle. I never wanted the dangly bits. But shopping for bras, etc still makes me uncomfortable. Anyone else feel this way?

In adolescent I was basically asexual (not girly but also not tomboy, and not interested in anybody sexually) and there was no real difference for me who I am and who my friends are (although I never understood the girly girls) so it seem to be right. But I was really boy-like later, for a few first years of my adulthood. I cut my hair very short and was wearing mostly male clothes. I was even in love with a girl and wanted to get her interested in me as a boy even though I never wanted to become a boy physically. Now it changed, I accept me being a woman, I got long hair and wear normal clothes although there is still not a single everyday dress in my closet (the only dress I have is a ball dress I wear on weddings) and all my clothes can be described as "sporty". And when it come to relationship I still want to be the one who "wears pants" therefore I look for a girl or a submissive boy I can protect and be strong for. It's quite awkward with the boys since "being protective and strong" is traditionally a boy job.

Definitely, I get what you're saying. Though I am not sure where this comes from.. I have lots of issues with gender (and not much interest in sex). It just feels so... artificial. I do get attracted to both genders but my mind gets the better of me.

check this article out!! !

helped me understand and feel like I'm not the only one O_O
http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/sexual- ... ray-032514

I am kind of a mix of androgynous, neutrosis, somewhat masculine-ish. I usually look some level of 'butch'.

I was very tomboy as a kid and most girls outcasted me and hated my guts. To them I was an insult to 'femaleness'.

And yeah since I am not a gender conforming person I usually feel self conscious when clothing shopping, and I go to both in the mens and womens sections to find what I think is most suitable for me.

When I was younger I was adamant that I was really a boy. This is probably because I was only interested in things considered masculine and I identified with my father more than my mother. But, really, I've always been a tomboy. In fact, only in recent years have I really taken an interest in "girly" pursuits, such as wearing dresses and make up. But even so, I never do it that often.

I am comfortable with my sex, even if, at times, I am a bit masculine.

I never fit in either role, I was the kind of kid that would sing along a princess movie in the morning than fight with the boys in the afternoon. (I was the best fighter anyway, until they started to develop physically)
the thing is, I am 100% female. But not the kind of female one would expect. The problem is not my gender but how society perceives it!! ! And I hate gender roles SO MUCH. 100% proud of females!! ! Go women let's show we are logical, capable, intelligent, brave and don't have to be like they want us to be. They want us to shut up and conform but we never will!