26 Apr 2014, 11:57 pm
Hi everyone...... so if I've been having interpersonal issues at jobs all my life and have finally figured out it's because of my aspie, do I go formal with this now? I was diagnosed (mostly by myself so didn't take it seriously) by a Dr. many years ago but ignored it 'til now 'cuz I thought it was very minor. But now I'm having trouble keeping stable employment. So do I go to my teacher's union with this information? Do I file for disability if they don't give me a job I can do, or give me the help I evidently need to do the job I think I can do? I'm great with kids and parents and brainstorming lesson ideas, but horrible at lesson planning and seem to offend adults without knowing it. An RSP jobb is perfect for brainstorming but it requires teamwork (which I love, I just keep botching it with my words). So sad. I want to honor and serve but instead I offend.
I have to stay with my district at least 3 more years or so to get benies for retirement.
I'm currently being scapegoated (written up for stupid things like not knowing how to run a projector at a new school when I was never taught and don't know) so I know they want me out. I've been working 13-hr days for 6 hrs pay to try to do the right thing and do a great job at my new school. I'm taking courses at grad school to update my credential and doing all of this with this new job but getting no support. They won't tell me on paper what is expected even when I ask, and get upset if I don't figure it out on my own, and the district job description is very different from what they want me to do at this school...
I get so caught up at trying to please that I focus too much on details and am behind on other things. Couldn't figure out what is most important. So stressed out! Finally I started figuring out the job and the people but it's too late and I'm being uninvited back to this school.
But I don't want to go to disability. I want to learn and compensate and work this out on my own. But after decades of obviously not being able to well enough, I think it's time for more help. The district is trying to give me a job that they/I know I can't do, instead of this job that I could do if I had some coaching.
Sorry about the rockiness of this in how it is written and but I"m a little scared... and just spent the last few hours looking at Aspie tests online and I can't run and hide any more. What does this mean for the rest of my life? I've tried so hard and can't try harder.... 
I believe I can trust God through this but that is a process and I feel like I'm just getting started with facing this monster obstacle in me that never would go away.
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27 Apr 2014, 9:27 pm
I have to stay with my district at least 3 more years or so to get benies for retirement.
I'm currently being scapegoated (written up for stupid things like not knowing how to run a projector at a new school when I was never taught and don't know) so I know they want me out. I've been working 13-hr days for 6 hrs pay to try to do the right thing and do a great job at my new school. I'm taking courses at grad school to update my credential and doing all of this with this new job but getting no support. They won't tell me on paper what is expected even when I ask, and get upset if I don't figure it out on my own, and the district job description is very different from what they want me to do at this school...
I get so caught up at trying to please that I focus too much on details and am behind on other things. Couldn't figure out what is most important. So stressed out! Finally I started figuring out the job and the people but it's too late and I'm being uninvited back to this school.
But I don't want to go to disability. I want to learn and compensate and work this out on my own. But after decades of obviously not being able to well enough, I think it's time for more help. The district is trying to give me a job that they/I know I can't do, instead of this job that I could do if I had some coaching.
Sorry about the rockiness of this in how it is written and but I"m a little scared... and just spent the last few hours looking at Aspie tests online and I can't run and hide any more. What does this mean for the rest of my life? I've tried so hard and can't try harder....
I believe I can trust God through this but that is a process and I feel like I'm just getting started with facing this monster obstacle in me that never would go away.Do you still have the documentation from the Dr. that gave you the diagnosis? If so, I would notify the district's personnel office of that fact, as well as your union representative. If they still persist into railroading into a position that would lead to separation, I'd be contacting an attorney versed in labor and disability law.
If you don't have a formal diagnosis, I'd still talk to an attorney based in labor law. I'd also seek a diagnosis somehow. I assume you have medical insurance through the school district. I'd ask your PCP for a referral to a psychologist or psychiatrist. Your PCP won't do a referral? Since you are currently taking courses at the local college or university, I'd hit up the psychology department to see if anyone there that is currently in clinical practice will perform the evaluation and diagnosis.
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27 Apr 2014, 10:41 pm
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