also, as a bit of a side-note: someone suggested researching online advocacy groups for women on the spectrum, to see if we can't find support to bring to bear on the issue from outside the site, and from people who have experience with such activism (because i don't). i thought that was a good idea, but i haven't had a chance to do it yet. i've got other things going on and i got....ahem, sidetracked yesterday (read: certain--thankfully few--things very effectively enrage me, and being bullied is one of those things--so i had some rage to expel yesterday.)