Problems with constant sexual abuse.

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I do have a mild form of autism called PDD-NOS and it seems that because of it, it makes me a lot more likely to be raped and sexually abused. It seems that I am the only girl out there with a pulse and every guy is willing to get a chance to get on me and the worst thing, this is more common with autistic males than it is with NT's.

I get lurked, stalked, being sterile by older men, been tricked on having sex with the younger ones, have them manipulate me since I am just there and just an easier target probably for my autism. It also seems when I mention my autism, its more like of a magnet for them.

I don't know exactly on what these people are doing but I am getting and idea but don't seem to have a clue why I am being constantly attacked in this way all the time. Its been like this for many years, even when I was little.

I can't have sex now because of all of the abuse and many of them still try at me. I get groped, stared down, shaken up and when I do something about it, they threaten to beat me up of just spread rumors about me in others on when I can't mingle.

Its so bad to the point on when I can't even talk to people since many stare me away from the rest of reality.


I can't figure out why this is happening to me (specifically) and I can't figure out fully on what these people are doing. I don't know if this is common in autistic women but this s**t does not f*****g stop.

Can someone please help me? have this ever happened with you before? what did you figure out of know about this situation? I really need answers.

I also apologize for sounding like a robot but this abuse is making me so sterile to even function.


What can I do about this situation? and do any of you know what I am talking about?

I think you are possibly giving off signs that you are welcoming sexual advances, that you may just perceive as friendliness. I'm not blaming you for anything that happened, believe me, but women have to be defensive, unfortunately.

Is there anyone you can talk to about this? Parents/a close relative or something? You shouldn't have to put up with what you describe

First of all, stop telling men that you have autism. It is seen as a vulnerability and clearly motivates people to victimize you. In fact, I suggest you stop interacting with men as much as possible. You need to get some help as soon as possible, a relative, counselor, therapist, or someone (a woman) to coach you on navigating social situations safely since you seem to be very socially vulnerable.

The next time some guy touches you inappropriately, get away ASAP and resort to violence if necessary. Consider taking a self-defense course. Carry a small weapon with you when you go out (unless you are going somewhere with a police presence, like a courthouse). Even a small kitchen knife in your pocket will work.

Report every attack that you want to report. If you honestly feel that their threats are serious and dangerous enough, ask someone you trust to help you make a decision about reporting the crime.

And stay away from men, at least until you understand how to read them.

READ. OP says that she is being sexually abused, not having people approach her politely.

I disagree about carrying a small weapon...it's likely to be taken away and possibly used against her (they'll claim she attacked them , of course)...On the other hand, a mini can of mace or pepper spray might not be a bad idea.

I agree that you are most likely unknowingly giving out signals when you socially interact with men that lead this to happen. And there are predators out there looking for girls like you - you must learn how to spot them and how to successfully avoid them. It took me a while to figure out how to appear normal friendly and not 'come on' friendly and to develop a sense of who was not safe...and for along time, it was scary not knowing what I was 'doing wrong'. Like the other posters have said, get help from a professional in this matter. you don't have to put up with this, and you can make it stop.

Who is there in your life who helps you regularly? Does your mom help you?

If you're being sexually abused -- meaning you say no to being touched and the man keeps on anyway -- or someone is harassing/stalking you or making threats against you, the police need to be involved.

evil people see someone who has trouble connecting/self obsessed people as easy targets because they have trouble of seeing "evil red flags" its just a part of the game you'll have to learn, and get better. hope it goes well I'd honestly just not let those creepy f**k wits in your life and carry some pepperspray. Hope your life goes well, may god be-less.

Without actually seeing you "in action", it will be very difficult to understand why it is that you are seen as an easy target for exploitation. You probably need a counselor or a close friend / relative who can help you with the specifics of your situation or what it is about you / your presentation that sets you up for these attacks.

That said, some general feedback, especially since you complain of being "stalked" :

First of all, please stop telling people you are autistic. I don't see why or how it is important for other people to know this about you, especially if you feel that it contributes to your victimization.

Secondly, take a course in self defense. And don't go on dates or meet people - male or female - alone unless you feel confident that you can ward off physical assaults. A mace spray is a helpful little item to carry around in your purse / handbag at all times.

Thirdly, avoid being alone unless it is in your own home or in a well lit PUBLIC place. If you must stay in late after normal business hours to finish up unfinished work or have to come in before everyone else (example - you are the employee who opens the business in the morning etc), then take work home to finish in the safety of your residence or have a friend / relative accompany you to work every morning. Also, insist that the business premises have CCTVs on at all times. People tend to behave themselves if there is a threat of their violence being potentially captured on camera.

If you are going on a blind date, again, arrange to meet at a well-lit PUBLIC place. Arrange to have a friend or family member in close proximity but out of visibility until about 20 to 30 minutes into a date. Also, arrange to have some "emergency calls" come in DURING the date -- use clue words that will alert your friend to immediately come and pick you up if your date is acting creepy or just plain "strange". Preferably, completely avoid blind or Internet dating until you are confident that you can handle the creeps that you will eventually find online.

Actually, I would go so far as to suggest that you not date at all, until you resolve this issue. If, however, you must date, then meet people through your family or friends or your church. There is no guarantee that these guys won't be abusive, but you minimalize that possibility. I am saying this under the assumption that your biological or your church family (for example) won't knowingly set you up with felons !

In a new job, DO NOT TELL PEOPLE WHERE YOU LIVE ! It is surprising how many people easily share information on where they live, who they live with, what their schedules are like, what they do during their weekends, where they like to spend their free time, blah blah blah without realizing that all of this information can be used to stalk you ! Your coworkers don't need to know where you live or what you do during your spare time. It is NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS, unless you LIKE being stalked. Keep a low profile at work, don't talk too much, do your job and get out. Your coworkers are not your best friends.

Similarly, when you move into a new residence, there is no need to share more than basic information wifh new neighbors. You do need to be friendly with these people, but they don't need to know more than emergency contact numbers to reach you in cases of EMERGENCIES that happen to your place or to you during your residency there. Again, unless you like being stalked, you don't have to tell them where you work, what you like to do during "down time" etc.

Low profile is the name of the game. Don't share personal information with strangers and acquaintances and don't date at least until you have gained enough self defense skills to beat off the creeps and would-be rapists.

STAY AWAY FROM SOCIAL MEDIA. Social media is for people who can take the good with the bad. For someone who appears to suffer from PTSD, social media is a strict NO-NO. If you MUST Facebook, then make sure you have very high levels of privacy settings. Do not share photographs of yourself (especially if you have unknown persons in your Friend list) and do NOT provide minute-by-minute updates of where you are, what you are doing, where you are heading out to, what your weekend / holiday plans are etc. THIS INFORMATION CAN AND WILL BE USED TO STALK YOU, especially if you have randomly accepted "friend" requests from total strangers that you have never met before or know anything about.

It is not uncommon for criminal types to send you "friend reqs" just by seeing your profile pic and fancying you as a potential victim for their next attack. Use common sense if you use social media ! DO NOT accept or send "friend" requests to / from strangers, coworkers and casual acquaintances. Someone with your sort of issues should STRICTLY reserve social media as a tool for interacting SOLELY with close friends and relatives. Honestly, no one should be on Facebook or other social media unless they can deal with the potential ramifications of befriending / interacting with complete strangers (which you are currently, unfortunately, seemingly incapable of).

Finally, please seek counseling. You need trusted people in your real life to help you with this situation & its resolution.

Good luck !

Last edited by HisMom on 09 Jun 2014, 12:10 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I'm sorry this is happening to you. I personally have never had this problem. Sex has always been on my own terms and most people respect that. Plus, I' e always had good relationships with men (mostly platonic) so I can tell right away when somebody is actually my friend or just using me. Same goes for women, for the record (I'm bisexual). So please bear with me as my insight might not be that insightful.

I wonder if it has something to do with the sort of men that you associate with. It seems that folk of, er, less reputable social standing (such as those with a criminal history) do a lot of stuff like this. I had a lecturer who used to be a junkie and he noticed how vulnerable people got sucked into a criminal lifestyle because of that.

But psychopathic people come from every walk of life and sadly, I think the fact that you've told them that you're disabled, they have found that they can manipulate you. Its not your fault. Even if you didn't tell them, they probably would have tried to manipulate you anyway. But still, disabled people generally are magnets for abuse because some f****d up people like to exploit what they consider a weakness.

If you have been raped, you should report the rapist. It might be difficult as rape is a difficult crime to find evidence for, but who knows? Maybe the police will investigate it and find that they have done it to lots of people. You might get a conviction for the bastard(s). But I understand if you don't feel like you can report it.

If people stalk you and harass you, report the behaviour - keep record of it. Write down sates, times, locations, find out if a cctv camera was nearby and ask if you can use it as evidence. This is criminal behaviour and you don't have to put up with it.

But all together, I think you seriously need to asses your own relationships. Do you jump into relationships too quickly? How easily do you trust people? How do you know these people are your friends? I don't know anything about you as a person, but I have a few friends with BPD and they have a similar instability with sex and relationships. I'm not saying you have it, but it might be worth looking into.

My mother has left me when I was about 13 and have not spoken to her properly in about 9 years or so. I was with my father and brother for many years and my father recently sold the house almost a year ago so I had been alone since. I had actually moved from California to Utah to hope it would of helped but it did not so far. In fact this problem has been happening more since I had arrived in Utah and yes I had traveled alone.

I had been touched by men but its hard for me to actually fight back and to stand up for myself, its more of a lock down really.


I am still trying to figure out what keeps on causing this and been having no luck so far.

Yeah it seems as if I am either calm or placed into my own world, or even having the ability to get into something, this sort of thing happens. No I am all alone.

This is probably the best advice I had gotten here so far, I will take that into consideration and yes I will be getting mace and some self defense supplies either tomorrow or the day after.

This is probably the best advice I had gotten here so far, I will take that into consideration and yes I will be getting mace and some self defense supplies either tomorrow or the day after.

This is very sad, I wanted something like that for years but it never seemed of been hitting that way and what you had mentioned of me being disabled has hit me as a rock. This keeps on upsetting me that these sort of things just happen over and f*****g over again until the point on where I want to bash my f*****g brains out.

The sad part is in this matter that I had just gotten out of a way of my family taking advantage of me ( for free labor and other psychological reasons) Now it just seems that is has to be be this way until I die . It's not fair and Ill I do is try to build myself up as much as I can to get away and manifest what I can before I go, as I mean go I mean (dead). This world is too much for me and it seems like that its not for me as well.

People had asked if I had BPD and my mother also had it and I never had bothered of being diagnosed with it. I think I shall look into that when I can.


This is f*****g miserable.


I am sorry I am just venting a bit here. This does give me a cue on how I can find and exploit others on what they are doing to potentially harm me. If I wan this problem to end and end for good I should get some routes into that, but I am unsure if that is on my pace or not :/

Last edited by FautheralLoather on 09 Jun 2014, 5:37 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Thanks, Ill do what I can. The self defense class sounds like a good idea but I am completely broke and can't afford it currently. I can always use YouTube for that though.