PMT and being oversensitive

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I'm a sensitive person anyway but sometimes when I'm due for a period I get extra sensitive. If somebody talks to me in a negative tone, I just want to cry. Sometimes the tears just come and I cannot help it, even if I smile and tell myself I'm ok.

Does anybody else feel like this? What do you do when you're around people and you just want to burst into tears? What do you do if you make a careless mistake or say the wrong thing and somebody talks to you in a negative sort of tone (moans at you)?

It makes me look weak.

You're not alone. I get like that as well, it makes every day life really hard and sometimes I can't even face my own family members because I just get tearful. When this happens to me I try and relax, listen to music or just sit alone with my thoughts for five minutes. I tell myself I'm ok and to relax, it helps a little.

A lot of the time I get moaned at and I feel like a disappointment, but I think that's just me being negative as whoever moeaned at me probably didn't moan as bad as I think they did.

It's a difficult situation but slowly I am beginning to manage mine a little bit better. I also have a nice amethyst ring (that's my birthstone) which I wear all the time, it makes me feel less anxious and whenever I feel overwhelmed or like I want to cry I hold my ring and it calms me down. I no not everyone has an item like that but I think if you have something which makes you feel safe and calm which you can take with you then it might work.

Crying doesn't mean you are weak. You usually feel like crying when something important to your eyes is happening.
If you wouldn't care, you wouldn't cry.

On the moment, you may try at first to acknowledge and analyse the reason of the emotion.
Then, concentrating on your breathing may help on the moment. But I don't have all the keys to avoid it!

Maybe the times when you feel like crying more would be times when you have more stress (changes in your life, affective disappointment, work pressure, etc.). Sometimes it is good to acknowledge that you need to sit back and relax, we are not robots

I'm not saying crying is weak but other people seem to think you're weak if you cry in some situations. Like yesterday the bus-driver yelled at me because I was late getting to the bus stop so I had to run, he only had to wait about 5 extra seconds but he didn't like it and decided to be inpolite about it, and as I sat down I felt tears coming and I couldn't stop them, so I put my sunglasses on to make it less obvious. I just thought that if other people on the bus saw me crying because the bus-driver yelled at me, they'd think I'm weak, as most adults aren't supposed to start crying after being told off. It's just looked upon as weak. I'd feel like a 5-year-old after getting told off by the teacher.

^^^I often run after the bus + waving at it, and it does not wait... I could not stop smiling and thanking if the driver would wait for me. If the driver would yell at me, I would think - he is in a bad mood - or - why does she wait if she doesn't want to? - I think that maybe analysing facts after emotion may help you.

I am not sure if people would think you are weak, they probably think you are depressed as crying all the time for no reason is typical of depression.

Where I come from if you're seen crying in public, particularly when you're on your own, people tend to look at you and even snicker. Sometimes you might get a kind person with sympathy, but not often. I've cried in public before and I saw people laughing at me. I think elderly people are the most empathetic of all people, but most other people would just judge you and think you're weird.

I am also very sensitive. If someone raise their voice at me I get very sad or angry I just don't show it or "shut down" instead of showing it. Before and during my period I can cry at anything and it gets more difficult to hide.