Straight girls that are in love with her best friend

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Maybe it's cute for little kids, but otherwise I feel like some grown-up girls and women are totally in love with each other even though they're both straight, and I find it weird.

Yes I know it's a normal thing to love your friends, but once I read a meme on a women's public Facebook page something like "no matter how straight we are, us girls are all a little bit gay with our besties". I thought, "um, no, not me."

It's like straight girls comment on each other's Facebook posts like "love you so much xxxxxxx ", "love you more babe xxxxxxxxxxx ".
I'm sorry but I just cannot talk like that with another girl. I can talk like that to my boyfriend.

It's just that because these days a lot of people are open about being gay, it's sometimes hard to know who is gay and who are just best friends. I have a feeling that soon straight people (especially women) would be legally allowed to marry their best friend of the same sex. I've seen my cousin hold her best friend's hand in public, even though they are both straight and have boyfriends.

It just feels a bit weird to me. I don't think I'd want to look gay in public when I am not gay. I don't know, it's just the way I feel.

Fed up of them pushing this whole agenda of everyone being bi. Nonsense

I'm fed up with homophobia, whether expressed or implied.

Polyamory is not the same as homosexuality, anyway.

Has no one ever heard of "Brotherly" or "Sisterly" love?

I think what gets me is when I see straight women post things such as "Wow, I wish I were a lesbian, dating my best friend would be so much easier!" or "Ugh so sick of men, lesbians have it so good". I hate to break it to you, but just because you're both women doesn't mean that you'd necessarily have an easy time dating one another. Although this is typically unintentional, it tends to imply that lesbian relationships aren't as serious as heterosexual ones.

There is a common misconception that lesbians are gay because of bad experiences with men. I know I've come out before only to get the response "Who did this to you? Don't worry, I'm sure other guys will like you". No one did this to me, I just get crushes on women since that's how I am. A particularly strange one is the response "I don't believe in lesbians". How am I supposed to reply? Ah yes, my mistake, I am merely a figment of your imagination. Carry on.

Agape is a kind of love of others but not romantically.

There are many kinds of love Jo, and I think perhaps this is what might be happening with a lot of these friends.

I think NT women just say much more than they mean where as NT males say less about emotions and feeling so straight NT women are actually signalling to each other that they care about their friend. The language is over the top and I wouldn't feel comfortable using it either. I don't think it's meant in the way it is with boyfriends, it just their way of showing they care. I don't think it's particularly deep either.

This double standard is not new. As long as I can remember females were allowed to hug and dance with each other without people thinking lesbian or bi. Outside of sports guys hugging each other and especially dancing with each other was thought of as "homo"

This is seen in this clip from a 1950s American television show.

There are many kimds of love as Temeraire said
I know my best friend and I feel strong love like that but its complete acceptance of each other and appréciation.. I do that to everyone i love including XH (even his bad thibgs I still love in a way since it is part of him - it gives u an understanding) sons nurses.. Ppl i meet who seem to be extremely sincere and honourable that I want to be like.. Even ppl i never spoke to but just feel a connection .. Its not choosy (love) or only 1 kind

I know I love ppl inc women to such extremes that has nothing sexual about it, in my heart


But i dont say it doesnt mean I dont care....
I try to check up on them help if i can etc but cannot do beyond that except pray fr them


You can also love a person inc their looks no matter how ugly they seem to their own eyes.. You can also love someone just based on their work (like my friend online Scarlit Rose Ashcraft being her new name)

Love encompasses all of a person not just one bit but it could take just 1 aspect fr love to come about.


You shd read some of Shakespeare's sonnets like ones written about male friends.. he got the concept of self love love of God love of ppl love of nature.. In a genius way

I'm not saying I don't understand the kind of love between two best friends, and I'm not saying I'm homophobic, as I've got friends and relatives who are gay and I like them and don't think anything differently of them.

I think it's just the way some girls get too soppy with each other, as I've had a best friend before but we never held hands or kissed or done any other intimacy that some girls seem to do with their best friends. The most we done was hug.

I have a cousin who is gay, but I never know who's her best friend and who's her girlfriend, and she goes from one relationship to another but seem to express her friendships in the same way she expresses her romance. I just find it all confusing. Maybe I'm taking the meme too literally.

Eh, it's how some girls are. It's not how I am with my friends (male or female) but live and let live, right?

Guys can be like that with each other now, too. People are the way they are, they socialize how they want... we of all people aren't in a position to judge, right?

Some people crave physical affection (not sexual, just like cuddles or whatever), and they naturally show love, even friendly love, that way. I have never been like that, but I have had a few friends like that. They were always hugging someone or grabbing someone's hand or whatever, and it wasn't sexually motivated at all. I would perhaps compare them to a puppy who just wants to be RIGHT next to someone allllll the time. I guess if I were an animal, I'd be more of a loner cat or something, hah.

I think men in many cultures are taught that this sort of affectionate behavior is unacceptable among friends. In other cultures though, it is not unusual for straight men to touch more like straight women do in our culture. In Nepal, that was the case.

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