Autism Women and Sexiness

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Is there a way a women with autism and sensory sensitivity can still be sexy and wear sexy things such as bras or lingerie?

I think I just messed up what I meant to say. Which is I have skin sensitivity and it makes it really hard to wear cute clothing and I'm just wondering if there's a way I'll ever be able to wear nice clothing that isn't all old and baggy.

Specify the sensitivity --
Is it a form of touch sensitivity? (Dislike being touched by any-thing in general or was it just with specific textures?)
Pressure sensitivity? (Disliking tightness or looseness)
Skin sensitivity? (Usually involves allergic reactions and irritations)

Or are you, in any chance, sensory-seeking like 'sensitive' without any covering/touching? (Sensitive to the environment like sun exposure or wind or humidity)
Or was it something more like sensitivity with temperatures instead?

And where or which part that concerns you?
Maybe someone here can help what kind of fabric or seams involved in your sensory needs.


The rest? The aesthetics of 'sexy' and 'cute' itself?
What to wear and etc... I got no opinion on that.

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It's skin because a fabric on my jeans caused my skin to rub off and get a scab. And pressure because I like loser clothing because when I wear tight clothing I feel like I'm being constricted in some ways but I would like to wear a little more form fitting clothing.

As for lingerie, there are many brands in the "indie lingerie" category that make bralettes from light, stretchy materials and in comfy fits. I've heard good things about brands like Flash You and Me, Toru & Naoko etc. Also Aerie (an American Eagle brand), especially for bigger cup sizes. The designs are cute and sexy but without underwires and scratchy fabrics. I hope it helps!

Since the pressure's the problem (among other things?), that does make appearing sexy harder since tight fitting clothes that don't leave much to imagination when it comes to shapes has a big role in what's considered sexy. Have you gone to any lingerie shops for advice? Maybe they'd have some models that are more loose fitting and won't feel as uncomfortable, but will still look good.

Of course, there's always the option of wearing clothes that are sexy due to being revealing. And the option of learning how to use your body language to appear sexy no matter what you wear, but I would assume this to be hard for us on the spectrum. And the option of just... not being sexy? Of course, this one's a better option if you don't want to be sexy, but since you apparently do, guess that's off the list.

thanks for the advice

I found lace sensory but over time got used to it.

I like to wear short skirts that aren't tight, but instead are pleated or a-line or stretchy. Underneath them I wear men's boxers. You can buy women's undershorts but they cost double and are basically the same thing.

I think I look really good, without being too revealing, and nothing bugs me sensorily.

Pair a short skirt with a loose crop top and you are good to go!
You can get all of this stuff, including soft cotton bras, at H&M