Do you hide your gender?

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I'm a demigirl, meaning half nonbinary, but the only option was female. I usually don't mention my gender online. I'm usually feminine like Elmer in The Big Snooze and The Stupid Cupid though with a bit of scenemo.

Just as an FYI, you can update your profile gender to Non-Binary if you ever wish to.

I don't know if males can answer this thread.Sometimes I deliberately choose the gender as female to avoid spam aimed at men.

More like I don't have any to hide.
But let others assume and go from there.

I wouldn't try to correct them when it's not possible to misgender me.


The female role and percept is just a convenient and a very familiar social factor to me since it's something I have to accustom to since birth.

I've yet to understand how people interacts and arrange their social dynamics to me if I don't pass as a female though.

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I'm pretty sure it says female on my profile and that's my gender at birth as they say

I'm what one called a "tomboy" back in the day. In college I avoided feminine clothing. I still do to some degree, but I think it's mostly protective (don't want to attract negative attention). That said, I don't meet the slew of female standards. I consider myself female but don't "flaunt" it. I think most neurotypical women would say I'm low on the "girly" scale.

I wish I could but I have a very feminine body shape. I also have long hair that I either straighten with a GHD or wear in a ponytail. Despite that, I never wear skirts or dresses or low-cut tops. I wear t-shirts and pants or trackies.

I tell you what I am reluctant to do though and that it to tick them boxes where it asks you all this sort of stuff for equality reasons

If it's equality then why are they asking. It makes no sense to me

To me you should treat people equal without having to know what their pronouns or preferences are.

And who knows what they do with this information anyway. It makes me highly suspicious

I used to hide my gender online more when I was younger, some people tend to underestimate women in terms of skills and intelligence and I used to find that very offensive. Now I care a lot less whether I am taken seriously or not, I just say what I want to say.

I identify as female even though I too frequently hate being a woman because of periods and menopause and not being able to walk alone at night without fearing for my safety. I hope I die before I start menopause. My brain cells are half-dead anyway.

I had a weird journey with the gender identity. When I was young I did not felt accepted by women and felt very out of place. That was a long time ago before the internet was accessible and the modern terminology existed. So I thought "I am not a woman. I am something else". In my early twenties I was dwelling into the internet and met a lot of people who tend to be androgynies like me, who used male pronounces while being a female and I did not liked their perception of gender either. It was all based on outside perspective. If some stranger would not guess or not understand that they are identifying not as women, that was a tragedy for them. I never wanted to base my life on opinions of others so that was very unrelatable. When later people wanted to add new words, post pronouns and all that - I felt like that was not what I was looking for. I felt like we as a society (lol I know it sound cringe but bare with me) should move to the direction where nobody assumes anything and just doesn't care. Instead all that movement was about caring too much. I felt like gender wasn't even that integral part of me or people around - it was more important was that person smart o stupid, kind or evil, liked this or that. I decided that being a woman can be a spectrum too, if you will. I maybe never fed in into a stereotype, but I still belong. I am a weird woman, and that is my life, and nobody should judge or push any expectations on me or others based on gender.

I rarely identify my gender to strangers. It appears most of us ought to be on a leash.
WP is a bit of an exception.

No. I look very feminine and like girly stuff. Can't help the way I'm built. Even if I dress in men's clothes, if I moved people can tell I'm a woman. I also have long hair and like wearing long skirts and dresses. I do have a more masculine personality. I like to feel it's my hidden secret.

My mom is the same (even though she' very NT). Pretty face, sexy body, tough, aggressive personality. Never relied on men to get anything done.

I don't know that I hide it, but I don't generally get into it unless it happens to be relevant. Most often I find it is not relevant. I don't much care how people see me...see me as a he? Call me he. See me as a she, call me she. See me as neither or both, go for whatever floats your boat. I've been assumed to be male a lot online.

In my day to day life, my gender has historically been somewhat ambiguous. I am afab, but I'm small chested, broad shouldered, and have a deep voice. Flip side, I have no shortage of hips and butt, and rather small framed. I'm also blunt, and masculine in demeanor, so I've been told. I get asked a lot if I'm trans. I think it can be hard for people to work gender out with me and if I'm being honest, I like it when people are confused about my gender. I get no disphoria over myself, but I might get euphoria over people not being sure. Over the last few years though, most people figure I'm female and have been calling me she. I think it's because I've been growing out my hair, but I'm not 100% on that one. I do miss people having uncertainty.