Hard to say "No", "Slow down", etc?

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Usually, I say what's on my mind. But it gets more challenging when someone is emotionally attached to me and has certain expectations. When a guy says, "I love you," I automatically say it back. Sometimes I mean it, but other times I'm just afraid of how he'll react if I don't. I don't like dealing with other people's negative emotions. So I try to either back out of relationship-type situations early, or go along with it until I can't any more. I guess it's wrong and unhealthy and all that. Anyway . . .

Could this be an AS thing? Or the result of having been abused as a child? Or both? Or something else entirely?

I've always tended to have a problem with this. To some guys.. even if you shout "SLOW DOWN" it goes over their heads. I wouldn't blame yourself.

Although you shouldn't say I love you if you don't mean it, it can lead to awkward situations. Anyway relationships to me are a burden and tiresome.

yeah...like marriage...lmao

Yeah, I'd rather avoid unexpected awkward situations and then create an awkward situation later, when I've spent a long time preparing for it. Good thing I don't believe in marriage.

I told my girl friend I loved her and I wanted her to know it she said yeah youve said it before.

I said that time I was just "answering " you I REALLY mean it now. She was upset not flattered. Live and learn.

Do you mean "slow down" emotionally? Or physically? They don't listen. Physically if I finally do get them to listen they quit talking to me.

Emotionally I just go with it. I don't think I've ever been in a relationship where we both felt the same thing at the same time. We would both feel it just not at the same time.