Should I be creeped out or flattered? (Guys can respond too)

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I visted a city to do a college visit this weekend and, after the campus tour, my older sister and I (I'm 16) went to a movie theater to see 21, you know, that movie about blackjack and card counting. Both Arron Yoo (Attractive Korean guy from Disturbia), and that british guy from Across the Universe were in it, so we knew that, even if we hated it, we could not be entirely bored.
Anyway, the theater was empty until around 10 minutes before the previews began and then all these college kids filed in until it was almost full. Anyway, when it ended, I didn't really like it too much for two reasons; First off, because I thought the plot was silly, and secondly because the character's eye colors were inconsistant. In one scene the girl had one brown eye and one blue eye! You'd think they'd edit more carefully but, no....
As my sister and I were filing out of the row, I paused to let some people in the seats above us leave first. I didn't want to cut in front of them because that's rude, right? But the guy I tried to let past stopped and said to me, "After you, Beautiful." I sort of looked at him with a WTF expression and then he winked at me. Taken aback, of course, I said a quick "thank you", walked past him, and then continued my conversation with my sister about the eyecolor inconsistancies. It was weird.
I mean, he's a college guy, so it's sort of creepy. But then again, he's a college guy so its also sort of flattering.

Should I be creeped out or flattered?

Again, guys can respond to this topic if they want to. I just felt silly putting it under 'love and dating' since neither 'love' nor 'dating' are really directly involved.

Be glad it's a college guy and not some old guy at a gas station.

Similar story: A girl and I where at a book store with another friend of mine and it was in NYC so there were a couple of floors to the bookstore. We were going to a comedy show that night so the girl and I were going down a floor on the escalator when this guy (he wasn't an old guy, but was older and somewhat good looking) said to us "Are you two causing trouble?" but in a flirty, "sexy" way. What became funny was I said, "What?" because I thought it was my guy friend, and he repeated himself (I don't know I thought it was funny). We both said no, turned around and didn't back.

Point: Your scenario, he could've been hitting on you, or he could've been trying to be nice. But, it can be both creepy and flattering at the same time. For me, I was more creeped out than flattered (although I was still flattered).

If this didn't really have a point, my bad. I tend to babble on sometimes, even when typing...

Flattered.

Neither, he probably talks like that to lots of girls. And if you're worried about the age thing, movie theatres are dark, so he probably didn't see you were younger.

He let it go, so it doesn't sound creepy. It sounds like he wanted to be polite, too.

and the dynamic is still the same, it's who is saying it that makes it dreamy or creepy.

guys like to feel the gentleman and do stuff even if they know they have NO CHANCE IN **** that they are going to get any response at all (let alone anything else)from the lady. The mere fact that they are interacting with a lady that they think attractive is sometimes the only point. They like to be remembered and guess what, it worked!

Over the years I have been blown away with spontaneous generosity from men with no hope of getting my number. I have had help pushing my car, working on my car, moving, rides, you name it, from guys that got their warm fuzzies just from being thought cool by a lovely lady.

Merle

PS I am NOT talking about the creeps that will press their luck, though.

Got mace? Next time a guy even looks at you, mace him. This will make sure you stay single until you die at the age of 60, a crazy shut in who talks to her cats all day. No one will know of your death though, because your cats will eventually become so starved they will consume your body. The only things that will remain are anything non consumable you happen to be wearing, leaving being a baffling array of items like belt buckles, chains, and rings.

Investigators will be baffled, wondering where exactly you disappeared to. Did she commit suicide? Run off with a girlfriend? All the while, the only people who know what happened to you will be systematically euthanized, killing off all remnants of your existence.

*MEOW

the cats can't eat the bones! that would be their first clue it was your remains. . not to mention all that blood that soaked into the rug.

The cats would have a long time to gnaw, and you died in the bath tub.

Flattered, quit being paranoid

what was I doing in the bathtub with items like belt buckles, chains, and rings?

I was talking about the OP. Maybe she was attempting to end it all after years of being single.

yeah? so, when are we going to hear of YOUR demise?

Your a cranky old broad

Its like you read my palm

*gasp* Don't say that. If you say its true, then it'll happen!