How to decrease one's sex drive?

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I'm looking for simple, natural ways to decrease my sex drive. Ideally, I'd like to get rid of it completely yet be able to allow it to return when and if the time is right.

Does anyone know of anything other than prescription medication that can lower a woman's sex drive?

BTW, I know masturbation helps in many cases, but it doesn't satisfy me enough to have any effect on my sex drive, and I've tried all kinds of techniques.

Sorry I can't offer a solution...

I have the same problem and it's driving me crazy and might wreck an otherwise great relationship I'm in.
I bought Chasteberry herb which is said to have been used by monks to reduce their sex drive and keep them chaste, but it doesn't work instantly (it takes a few months of daily tea to kick in), so I gave up from impatience.

Do we just have to find someone who has the same sex drive as us?

By the way, I've heard that libido/sex drive is all in the brain. Some scientists put a stimulator on that area of the brain of a woman who had a low sex drive, and she instantly had a very high libido (she didn't like the sudden change so she had them take it off though). Interesting.. but I'm not personally interested in messing around with my brain.

Well, the Army used to use saltpeter, but it only works on guys that I know of...

Getting old helps too...

For the moment, I'm sick of having sex. I'm sick of the social interaction involved in it, and all the details like contraception, etc. I'm sick of wondering when I'm going to get laid next. And so on.

I want to focus on the rest of life without that distraction.

I'll look up nuns and monks. You're right - they might have developed some good techniques.

It turns out that saltpetre (potassium nitrate) does not actually have any anaphrodesiac properties - that was a myth.

But there are prescription drugs that can be used specifically to treat hypersexuality. I think I'll ask my doctor about them. I'm not keen on the idea of taking prescription drugs, but I guess I'd consider it if the side effects were minimal . . .

You can consume a lot of soy milk and that will lower sex drive. However its not without consequence as it also lowers thyroid function and may cause gynelogical problems.

If you will go the prescription route all psych meds destroy sex drive. Otherwise I'd suggest you go to Good Vibrations website and get a good vibrator as those are ten times better than sex with another human anyway.

Shifting to low gear topic

I had this problem years ago and it was an endless source of frustration. I actually consulted a female gynecologist and asked, in all seriousness, whether a female circumcision would decrease one's libido. She said it would but no one in North America would do such a surgery.

I tried the M route, but things just got overstimulated more. I was a mess in my twenties and thirties, and even swallowed a lot of 222s in order to alleviate the "itch". Hormones do a number on those with AS, I believe. But I felt too vulnerable to engage in a relationship, and I got used anyway when I attempted it. In my forties it slowed a little.

Mind over matter was somewhat helpful, but again, when the desire resurfaced, I was just like Spock when his urges were at a peak. Very depressing.

Menopause thankfully took away most of the feelings, and now I only get urges about once a month. I know this does not help much, but at least you know you are not alone. I never told anyone about my "problem" before. It was just too embarrassing. It is okay now, because it has passed.

And yes, I do know exactly how you feel.

Try becoming very religious... it worked for me for a while, but eventually backfired. I think if I had stuck with it though and tried harder, it might have worked.

You didn't mention if it was okay for a guy to reply and I hope I'm not being intrusive but why do you want to reduce your sex drive? Anyway I've heard that yoga and deep meditation can work, probably same as the religious thing as mentioned above.

Depo shots can lower them. It did to me and there have been woman who would go to the doctor and complain about themselves not having as high of sex drive they did before they had that shot.

Maybe 1) lack of sexual outlet 2) the sex drive is so high it is distracting you from more important issues?

Wow, this is a crying shame.
I would love to find and be with a woman who would like to enjoy sex 1-3 times a day or more, every day.
Or, at the vary least 4-6 times a month.
I love the intimacy and closeness that comes with it and that is shared.
not to mention its a real fun play time to do with someone you enjoy being with.

Well, males have even of a harder time finding and being with someone.
so yes I can understand that,
I as well many times wish I could just turn off my sex drive until I could find someone to enjoy it with.
The hell of it is the more males masturbate the more our body's busy its self producing more sperm thus
making our sex drive kick in even more, its a vicious cycle, so it makes it even worse when we masturbate
to relieve our selves of the want and drive, and when we are full we still ache to relieve the baggage just not as bad.
and we as well feel or are reminded of our constant loneliness (when we do not have someone) because of it.
there seems to be a certain satisfaction that comes along with love making, I think much of it has to do with
our body's absorbing the female hormones while making love.

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I read that extra sugar in your diet decreases your sex drive - at leasst for men, but I don't know if this is fact, or even if it applies to women. It's probably not a good long term strategy anyway.

And I'd just like to textually pat myslef on the back for not making any jokes about 'coming over to my place' in the previous post

Interesting! Something to try - it can't hurt.



I've tried all kinds of toys - they don't really do it for me. I need to at least be in the presence of someone I'm attracted to in order to have a satisfying orgasm. I can have an orgasm by using my hands or a vibrator or other inanimate object, but it's just not satisfying enough to have any effect on my sex drive.

Also, I've been on a variety of psych meds for which decreased libido was a common side effect. But not for me. None of them affected my sex drive at all.

And I looked up the drugs that are used to treat hyper-sexuality and discovered that they're based on synthetic hormones - mainly progesterone. Chemically, they're a lot like oral contraceptives and have similar side effects. So I'm not going that route.

Men are welcome to reply. Some info may apply to both genders. Some men may have something to contribute based on relationships they've had with women, and some may have interesting ideas or thought-provoking questions. Any in-put is welcome from anyone.

I've been thinking about deep meditation, and wondering if yoga might help. Meditation already seems to help a bit. I just need to get better at using it for this purpose.

I want to reduce my sex drive because it's so intense, it clouds my judgment and decision-making processes. Sex is constantly on my mind at least to some extent. I've been this way since puberty and it has led me to make some impulsive decisions that I later regretted (like having sex with house mates, and friends I wasn't that attracted to ). I'd rather not have that preoccupation when I'm not in a serious, committed, long-term relationship.