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Has any woman suffered from vaginismus. I have done. I've recieved thearpy and have over come most of my difficulties. They say it is mind over matter but it is like the vagina has a mind of it's own.

I hope it is not too personal but I would be happy if anyone could share experiences they have had relating to this.

I haven't, but I looked the term up on dictionary.com and it sounds really painful. I hope it goes away or gets cured for you, and soon.

I havnt had all the time the problem it comes and goes and yes I think it has gone and have been cured.
It is about choosing the right partner too.

Did your doctor tell you about any psychological causes of this?

There is not always a psychological cause. However, I have recieved alot of thearpy. For legal reasons I have had to.

I had a roommate with this problem and I think also a very short vaginal cavity so for her sex was rather painful. She ended up having sex only once a month or less. her husband was not necessarily pleased with the situation, but he loved her anyway. And it ended up working out all right as his penis was crushed in an industrial accident right after they had a kid.

There is nothing physically wrong with my vagina. I have had alot of sex and enjoyed it.

I think it has been more a psychological issue. I have had my boyfriend try to penetrate me and he can't. He say's "what is wrong and I reply "I don't know" because I really don't. Like I put it is like the vagina has a mind of it's own because then on other occasions we have have had sex successfully.

I have it, and it's definitely not fun. Nothing goes in, ever.
But I don't think I'm emotionally (or financially) ready for treatment either. I keep thinking there might be something anatomically wrong too, in addition to psychological. Something just doesn't look right.
I don't want to sleep with anyone, but the one time I tried with my ex, it just wouldn't happen.
It was kinda embarassing.

There may be something anatomically wrong with your vagina, there may be not. Vaginismus has nothing to do with any physical or anatomical conditons. I suggest you see a gynocologist especially if you are or have attempted sex. There is a condition where people are not quite born female. I knew of a girl like it and she would have to see a specialist and was going to have surgery. Other women would say to her "have they found your hole, yet?" Which was cruel.

It was hard to tell if she was male or female.

Did she have a normal menstrual cycle? Probably too much to ask about, but now I'm curious as to where the uncertainty begins.

And that "have they found your hole, yet?" comment was mean of them! Mine kinda disappeared after awhile when my ex was trying to re-find it, and he literally couldn't find it, it was hard to find to begin with and it hurt to try and hang onto the edge. It went underneath another part after I let go, he couldn't find it, and got too nauseated, I don't know how to describe it. But it basically disappeared from view downward...and I've never heard of this happening to anyone else. I guess the floor kinda contracts into whatever part is behind/above it...?

I'm sorry if that was TMI.

I'm afraid to see the gynocologist, even though I know I should see one (whenever I can afford it). I'm scared they'll accidently hurt me since I get nauseated when any pressure is applied there and nothing fits. And that one time was the only time I ever tried to have sex. I'm not interested in having intercourse due to the nausea I associate with it, a fear of things being stuck in my body that a developed sometime after that event, and an even bigger fear of pregnancy.

I don't know if she had a menstrual cycle or not. The other girls used to gossip about her and I hate gossip especially when it comes to people private lives around issues such as sensitive as that.

I have had difficulty with men trying to find my hole to or penetrating. You hold their penis and guide it in. They have had no problem finding it then even if they can only push it half way up. Fortunaetly, I do not have that problem anymore.

How many patrners have you had, just the one? and why does sex make you feel so nauseated. I would be exploring those issues. Perhaps it is just because you have had not much experience or found some one that you are comfortable with.

Good luck, anyway. I know what it is like. I really liked this guy once and because he couldn't penetrate, he didn't want me no more. He said he wanted a real woman or only liked older women.

Awww, poor girl.

I've only had one partner, and I tried to guide at one point, but like I said, after awhile the hole had contracted and disappeared under the space between the vaginal opening and the anal opening. It can't be accessed at that point. It's literally gone until everything uncontracts an hour or more later. It stops lubricating and goes dry when pressure is applied too. (sorry if that's TMI)

I feel nauseated from the pressure because it feels identical to being very constipated, which isn't pleasant and leads me to believe that stuff might be spaced too close.

Wow, that guy wasn't worth it if he was going to be like that about it, I'm sorry that happened. There are better guys out there. And thank you for trying to help me.

I hope I don't have this. I've only been able to have sex with one guy. I thought it was because of size. He was skinny and the next guy was thicker. That guy was an arse though. He called me a half-virgin.