jazzguy wrote:
Being a musician means you HAVE to work with others. Maybe I'd be happier if I was a painter or a writer, but I'm a composer and drummer. I write and play jazz, and I'm getting my own band together.
Without having really given it a lot of thought, I now find myself in the position of having to be a "bandleader," which requires a lot of focus and a certain amount of "authority." But sometimes I feel it slipping away and I just want to go away to be by myself.
Now to play jazz you have to good, and these guys are good, very good musicians. But the music I write is a little different, and they spend a certain amount of time talking about how "difficult" it is, especially my use of odd meters and my non-functional harmonies. I'm used to seeing a lot of chuckling and head-shaking when they look at their sheet music for the first time. Sometimes this makes me feel like a fraud, I can't help it. The thing is, the music sounds great when we're playing it, and all I want to talk about with these guys is the music, not the concepts behind it. I feel like sometimes I'm having to assume a defensive posture. Also I've never been any good at musicians' "small talk." It can feel like a real balancing act sometimes, and I find that afterwards I'm quite exhausted.
Are there any other Asperger's musicians here, who maybe know the sort of thing I'm talking about?
I dont mean to disagree, but your first sentence is incorrect. if you are a musician, you do not have to work with other musicians, this is a true fact. but it is cool if you can, or want to... "HAVE to" an an absolute. Absolutes are not wise. It offers no alternatives...