Do your past social faux pas haunt you?

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Numerous times I have said and done inappropriate things. I know it is due to a condition that I can not help that I have, but these faux pas haunt me. Am I the only one?

Edit: it would be interesting to trade our stories. I bet few are more embarrassing than mine. Though, no way I want to relive those memories. There are people out there that think I am absolutely crazy.

YES.
Part of the reason I often avoid people is that I don't want to add to my extensive collection of embarrassing memories.

Yes. I have myriads of memories that prove my utter retardation!

Same here; I don't want to add more embarrassing memories! See the chagrin thread, OMG! I thought I had PTSD but realize now I have PHSD... Post Humiliation Stress Disorder... got worse as I got older, even thought I was already out of high school I kept reliving it. I'm way better now that I'm taking stuff (for the first time in my life). If you're afraid you will be humiliated it will cause you to be inattentive or otherwise humiliate yourself again; it happened to me and was almost like a neverending cycle; it was awful! You have to not care. If people care about your faux-pas then they are not worth your attention!

I still like to go out and socialize when I can even though I'm pretty sure that most people find me unpleasant to be around.

Yes I have made my share of embarrassing moments. But when they happen, you learn from them and move on. If your mindset is that you are not going to change you will grind to a standstill and never move forward.

Oh yes, may of them. One that will still get a physical reaction of recoil is when our teacher told us to read part of a book, The Secret of NYHM (sp?), and I was sharing with someone, so I thought we were supposed to read out loud. So I started to read out loud, but I was the only one, but I didn't want to suddenly stop, to it became a murmer, and then after a while a kid just told me to shut up so I did. One of the most dreaded social faux pas memories I have or at least one of the ones that I haven't blocked out mostly. Haha.

Oh god, I hated that day. It was in fourth grade and I am a junior in college! I just can't stop feeling bad about that.

Everyone has their Gazpacho soup.

I can't get over small embarrassing moments. I can with people I see often because I have to - but say, like at my dorm, we have to swipe in past security. A few times my card didn't work or I forgot to hold it up and the security officer flipped out on me - I was so embarrassed I would have severe anxiety about swiping in, even though I was just one of hundreds of kids they saw each day. I had the same bus driver for middle and high school - I always felt embarrassed because I tended to sit up front and chill with my ipod instead of head for the 'cool' back, and one time I forgot my purse on the bus, etc. I just felt he thought I was weird/an idiot, so I dreaded going on the bus - my mom thought it was because I was too lazy to wait out in the cold - but it was paranoia. People who see tons of other people like me every day, who don't know me well enough to care about me, who are totally insignificant in my life panic me the most - I can't get over my embarrassment, and try to avoid them like crazy. It sucks.

the answer to that question is yes for me

Back in junior high, I made a big mistake with my best friend because I didn't understand a social rule and it ruined our friendship beyond repair. It was emotionally devastating.

For the most part I've healed up (especially thanks to my therapist), but occasionally I get random impulses to call her and make a futile attempt to get back together with her. Also, holidays and birthdays are a little painful because I miss spending them with her.

Yes.

sometimes when i am bored at night i think of all the stuff i have said/done.

i want to hide in a corner.

people say that one day you will laugh about it..... but i haven't laughed yet...

oh well, one day i hope i will!

Yes, but lately I'm trying to veer those missteps in a more constructive direction. Okay, that was awkward- well- now I know what not to say. Actually I went out on Sunday, and only once did I do something bumbling and ridiculous, and that had nothing to do with socializing- I fell down the freaking stadium stairs at the movie theater!

So I figure- all those times I said something bizarre- now I know 1,583,965 ways NOT to interact.
(Like shouting "GIVE ME YOUR TIME!" when what I meant was, "what time is it?")

Yes

I sometimes ruminate about the mistakes I have made as I have OCD as well as AS. Somethings that I have done make me cringe even now. Talking excessively to people about my special interests or stuttering out a reply or question are the most memorable faux pas.