does anyone else deal with this and how do you?

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[i]ok i love my father more than anything. but we are pretty sure he is autistic. now the problem is i am a teenage girl who just needs affection i am big on hugs and closness and he doesnt really want to be close to me that much because it just isnt him. i have just learned to except this because this is him. when i need affection i go to fiends or something but it still bothers me and i cant always just run to my friends.so i just learned to suck up and deal with this. so is this normal for me to be bothered by the fact that i cant get close to him but to love him so much that i put that a side and do my best?

I would say it's normal to feel that way.
Have you told him all of this? If he really cannot handle the closeness that you desire, perhaps the two of you should talk about it. I'm sure their are other things you can do together for Father-daughter time that would be just as affectionate as hugs and kisses.
What ever you do, don't just keep it inside and not tell him. Make it very clear that you love him and want to show affection. Because I'm sure he loves you just as much and wants to be affectionate too.

Good luck!

thank you and i have told him so some nights we just sia dn watch tv or i sit and watch him play video games it just depeneds we try to deal with it.

I can't remeber a single time either my mother or father hugged me. They just weren't that sort of people. It's probably the reason I started dating so early. I can't say I thought it was tough, it was just the way things were and I didn't know any different... Don't really know what else to say, but here's a cyberhug *HUG*, to be going on with.

just keep in mind that your dad loves you to pieces, even if he has difficulty showing it. what i do with my sister when displaying signs of affection (mainly because of the social situation we may be in, not becasue she doesn't like cuddles) we sign to eachother. maybe your father might be more comfortable with a sign or something that is obvious enough to read but doesn't involve body contact or whatever he doesn't do.

its been pondered upon whether my dad is autistic, because suspected symptoms, before it was classed as a disorder has run in my family for years. i haven't seen him in nearly 3 years mind, but he was incredably obssessed with animals and countryside and had fantastic memory, and wouldn't try anything as new as an indian takaway.

i dunno maybe the sign things a stupid idea but it works for me

steff xx

* like a hand jive or an "s" in sign language is what i meant xx