Problems getting what you want to say across...?

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Someone reads: Please someone, read me my own mind. Please, please read my mind to me.

I'm right there with you on that one!

I've often thought that as well...it would be wonderful.

I thought that it was a problem of not being fluent in English as it it not my mother tongue. But lately i realized that not only anxiety exacerbates, when i'm giving interviews, it but it is also due to not being able to think and convert the thoughts to word simtaneously, which is required the most during interviews,no wonder i do badly particularly in scienctific interviews. It sometimes happens with my native language also when i am telling something which requires new composition. So talking in non-native tongue further intensifies my problem.

phones no longer scare me.
written communcations is great.

I'm trying to work on communicating in person with people better.

I have some trouble with verbalising what I am thinking...

For example, I was listening to a cd of my mothers the last week and two days ago she wanted it back. She asks me..."Where is the cd of mine that you listened to last week?".

Of course, I could picture where it was in my mind, but when I tried to verbalise where...no words at all were coming out of my mouth. It's hard to explain, it's almost like I know what I want to say, but the words are all jumbled up in my head and not forming ANY kind of structure.
It took me atleast 1 minute to answer the question and it still came out wrong, but good enough that my mother could understand what I ment.

This mainly occurs after I have been on an outing somewhere, or if I have not had to communicate verbally for a long time and then all of a sudden have to.

Set subject and in a professional setting, I'm usually ok; I've learnt to pace myself and organize my sentences before I talk, like here. I used to stutter, stammer and slur, I still do when a professional throws something at me I haven't preplanned for. Speech therapy did so much for me.

I appear a little "slow" when I talk, muffled and spaced out words, plus I lack all inflection (monotonous); I have the deep and flat autistic speech.

I cannot talk at all in a social environment with people I don't know; I have no words then.

I've taken the habit of carrying around a notebook.

It's not like people usually get what I try to express in any form of communication, geez - but I know this stuttering and totally wrong sentence structures and words in a wrong context too. I was and still am unconsciously afraid of stumbling over the words I say in a more official situations such as school. I'm working on that, I mean, my grades are quite bad because I can't manage to open my mouth so I have no choice but to try speaking. I don't care what my language is like at home, my mom doesn't fret about it fortunately.

I made the experience that when I have a picture in my mind, a video of the action I want someone else to do for example or a picture of the item I'm searching and want to ask for that I can open my mouth and no words will come out. I have the picture, clear and very detailed, but I have I can't think of words. When I force myself to speak and succeed, I use wrong words that may sound similar to the once I search, but mostly it's just random words that come from I-don't-know-where and pop out of my mind on their own.

my problem...well the problem others have with me is that I talk too much about nothing.

My stragegy now.... is to try to not talk at all, so I got rid of my cell phone and leave the land line unplugged.

I got a sole no human interaction job.

All new people in my life don't know the difference, but my old friends...well they are concerned because all of the sudden Amy has nothing to say... there must be something wrong with her. but now that I know for sure what is wrong with me...(I knew years ago and then "forgot" long story- go fig) and how to deal with it...it just another thing that Amy has to say about herself.
God I have lost so many loved ones because I had no clue.

What is the easiest, breif way to explain this to people?

Yes.

Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.

I think the hardest for me, is describing where things are, if say we're driving past a building and someone asks "so - where in that building is your office again?"

"ummm, it's at the end of that 2nd bit there.."

"2nd what??" etc...

I totally suck at rapidly translating my (visual) thinking into long and complex directions, orders, or explanations; which causes me to stutter and stammer a lot. It takes time for me to turn my "mental images" into grammatically correct, understandable sentences.

I like doing that on purpose Well, when I realize Im doing it I just keep going.

Omg I had an incident with echolalia today. First time its happened in a while...I said what it was exactly the same way that someone else did. I usually phrase whatever it is i'm about to say into a question. "chicken fingers." "chicken fingers?"
I felt kind of dumb because I remembered hearing my own voice just after I said it and then I thought....oooooommmyyyygooodddddd.....

I have trouble especially with drawing blanks. I have a slight dyslexia problem when I'm trying to read something to someone. Especially numbers. If I'm trying to read 167 to someone I'll say one-sevent..ermm 167.

My thoughts run faster than my mouth, so I've learned to speak slowly. Otherwise, I juxtapose the thoughts I'm saying and confuse the daylights out of people.

I edited that sentence 5 times.

Lots of times I'm like that. From thought to using my voice, the data gets filtered and/or scrambled and never quite comes out the way I intend. My hands do a better job of communication than my voice.