Growing up, were you jealous of NT siblings?

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My younger sister is always more popular than I am, enjoys parties, and gets the boyfriend. She is so wonderfully NORMAL!

Usually I don't care, because I have my own strengths. For instance, I've had an easier time in school, and I know what my talents are, whereas my sister is confused about what to do with her life.

But sometimes when I've had a rough time, socially speaking, I look at my sister and how easily everything comes to her, and I wish it were me. Her social timeline - make friends, have first boyfriend in high school, party senior year, etc. - seems so normal, in a nice way. She is doing everything right. I'm older, so I should be giving her advice, but actually she has to give me advice much of the time! I'm not depressed or anything, but sometimes it seems so unfair...

Anyone else feel this way?

I was usually too busy punching my brother/being punched back...

We fought like cats and dogs. He has since admitted it was becuase he was jealous of me (yeah, wtf?!). We're best buddies now that we're 'grown up', I love my brothers to bits. I firmly believe - as does he - that he's a bit aspie as well, and our youngest brother has selective mutism which is probably connected to it toooo, though he's still a little kid so hopefully will grow out of it as he gets older (because it's a right pain in the bum!).

I was always jealous of my NT older sister, but not because of the normalness factor. She was my parents' favorite, and was treated far better than I was. My parents hardly ever punished her, always talked to her in a friendly tone of voice, and gave her plenty of freedoms. I was punished constantly, got yelled at almost on a daily basis, and still had a curfew at age 22.

I have three older brothers that are NT but they grew up just as weird and mal adjusted as I am. The only difference is that they all work, are responsible and upstanding. And then there's me. Lowest rung on the totem pole. If there ever was such a thing.

I was kinda jealous of my sister because she didn't have alot of the developmental problems i had...at the same time I was glad to not be such a conformist.

All the damn time. My brother has had like 30 friends. I've had like three... There's this hot chick bout my age who funking crosses the street when walking by my house when I'm outside.

Oh yes yes yes, even though she's 7 years younger. Her friends, I wanted friends like that. Or really anybody to do things with. It sucked.

I have an NT younger sister who always had and has more friends than I do. I don't think I have ever felt jealous of her because I accepted that she was naturally a better socializer than me even before I found out about aspergers. I actually felt kind of ashamed of myself because I had so few friends and I tried to cover that up as much as possible but I think it was quite obvious. It especially bothered me because I felt that it was making a difference between me and her to my parents. She is probably going to end up having many more great relationships with people than I will but I need to start accepting who I am and not be ashamed about not fitting in where I am not a piece of the puzzle.

My brother has more friends than I ever will...

Often times friends I would make would end up becoming more of my sister's friends because they saw her as being "cooler" and more "normal"...likewise, my my sister had more developed friendships with my cousins than i did...i was always sorta the black sheep....socially unacceptable weirdo spaced out fat kid that i was....

Can't say I've ever been jealous at them(If I keep exploring my memories I might find some incident where I was). Angry? Upset? Most certainly.

Not really.

I didn't care for friends as a young child because I was so introverted (at recess teachers worried about me because I walked around thinking about stuff).

Besides, I my friends are more laid back than my siblings'.

When I was in high school, we pulled all kinds of crap.

I remember we went to a construction site, where we sprayed a fire extinguisher. A noxious cloud of yellow gas came out and covered the entire road. (We ran like hell since it was in broad light)

Another time we had to sit in the back of a cop car (though I've never been arrested).

Good times.

I'm not altogether certain my siblings are NT . . .

My parents always say dat my NT sister is smarter n clever den me which is not true cos i was also quite smart n had a better memory but cos my NT sister has been 2 mainstream skool went 2 college n went 2 uni where as i went 2 a special needs skool.

I don't get jealous, I get annoyed!

The favoritism of my older, NT sister is what eventually destroyed our whole family. They created a monster and now, the black sheep, that's me, is the only child my parents have in their sickness and old age. The marvellous, NT, glamourous, successful children abandoned them when my parents didn't have anything more to give. And this rejected aspie is nowadays their only lifesaver. I despise NTs, because I despise my family and they're the most NT thing in the world.