Would like to have friends/more friends?

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I never would have picked up on that. Assuming they are indeed persons, what should I have called them?

Last edited by Mw99 on 16 Dec 2007, 8:17 pm, edited 2 times in total.

Sometimes I wish I had more then the three friends I currently have...

But then I remember that by my definitions, the rest of the world has no friends whatsoever, so I feel better...

You mean people rather than persons. Persons sounds far too depersonalised, like you are a machine.

I don't even have one friend in real life...

I had two friends, but had to back off because they kept taking offense at my "excessive" needs for down and alone time, even though I explained about the AS. So although I wanted to tell them to shag off, I just withdrew. Got sick of explaining myself. Someone had a sig on here that said something like, "If you can't stand me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best," or something like that. How true!

I currently only have online friends....yes, friends, not aquiantances. They are really nice to me and I am grateful for that.
Of course, it would be nice to have RL friends. I used to have a RL friend this year, but I failed to keep in contact with her and never used to want to go anywhere so the friendship ended.

Sometimes though, having friends can be stressful. When I was at intermediate school I had one good friend. She was accepting of me and I was of her. When it came to doing activities outside of school with her though, I was not very keen.
The friendship was too much stress for me and there for I basically avoided her because I didn't know how to handle it.

If I could manage my stress about social situations, then RL friends would be nice. Until then, I am ok with having just online friends.

"Excessive"... That is an interesting thing to ponder. When does the need to be left alone go from "acceptable" to "excessive"? I don't rightly know... But I do know exactly what you're talking about, when your notion of what is acceptable is the same as what your friends consider to be excessive.

This is a hard thing for most people to understand, I think. I do not know why, do not understand why. So many people take the notion of, I just want, need, to be left alone just now... So personally. This has always been a point of confusion for me. This need to be left alone sometimes is intrinsic to me, and does not come at some dislike or detriment of anyone else...

“Hey, Ryan, do you want to go grab lunch right now?” [In a loud and crowded cafeteria with a bunch of people (besides me) who you don’t know?]
“Uh, no, I don’t; thank you for asking.”
(Resulting assumption – I don’t want to have lunch with the person who asked; NOT that I don’t want to have lunch in a crowded cafeteria with a bunch of other people who I do not know… )

I think my WP friends understand this about me, because I have explained it so, in not so many words; I fall silent for periods of time, not because of them, but because of me. To my work friends, I sometimes say, "I just can't deal with people right now...", sometimes when they, say, want to drag me off to lunch in the cafeteria at the same time as everyone else... And WRT to my older friends... I think there is at least one who understands this need to be left alone sometimes, and that it is not meant to be as offensive towards anyone else. I.e. "I need to be left alone right now..." is NOT the same thing at all as, "I don't want to deal with YOU right now..."

This is... a hard thing to convey to others without giving inadvertent offense. A need to be left alone, which has nothing to do with any particular anyone else, and everything to do with us in whatever condition we are in. But, hartzofspace, I understand what you're saying, I think; and I suspect that there are many others here who understand also... I just wish this was a more widely accepted and understood thing. But then again, what fun would life be without being constantly misunderstood?

Good fortune,

- Icarus needs alone time because he needs alone time, not because he hates you....

I have two or three friends right now.
I'm content with this amount because I know that I would enjoy a small number of close relationships rather than otherwise.

I've got a few friends. I don't need - or want - more than that.

Well... I have a small circle of friends, and a few close friends, I had alot more friends in high school and collage, but eather they got married, moved, or they did not wanna hang out with me or vice versa, I got rid of many of the friends who were a bad influence on me cause I knew they would just bring me down and get me into trouble.

I am fortunate to have a small circle of friends that I have, but I would certainly like to expand that circle, so long as they are good people, and ya know what man, if you lived near me I would certainly chill with you, and introduce ya to my buddies, they are all good guys, accepting of peoples differences, and intelligent. I am sure if you could meet us all we would all enjoy eachothers company and have a very good time.

I want to be your friend, Mw99. I have sent you a PM with my msn address.

Friends would be very handy.

I'd like friends who share my interests. It's very hard to make short films or mod computer games on your own.

Many hands make light work, and in a lot of things you just need enough people heading together towards a common goal and you will succeed. That's why NT's are such a productive lot. You can't build cities full of skyscrapers if you're just a small group of people... Of course, you can't fight a war either.

I did the friend thing for a while. I had plenty of friends but they all turned out to be jerks and sometimes I turned out to be a jerk, so I'm happy just spending most of my time alone, like I always used to.