Ever made fun of a more severe aspie to fit in with NT's?

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ive never met anyone with aspergers, so i guess not

It's a social psychology thing about conformity.
Look up Asch's experiment.

Also, Milgram and Zimbardo show that good people can do heinious stuff. So don't worry.

No, I was always the bottom of the pile when it came to bullying, there was no one lower on the food chain than me so this never even presented itself as an option.
I remember once sticking up for a girl who was getting bullied because she was kinda scruffy, obviously her family couldn't afford new clothes etc. I found it really upsetting and stuck up for her, the bullies then decided that I was a far better target and started on me instead, and she joined in!! !! !!
There's a moral here somewhere but I'm not quite sure what it is.

If you can't laugh at yourself there are plenty of people to do it for you.

NOPE! I try to stick up for such people! HECK, I have stuck up for people I have HATED when I felt they did the right thing, and were accused of doing the opposite.

When I was 10 years old, there was a boy with AS in my class at school. He used to get bullied by people hitting him and laughing at him. I never joined in with the bullies as I was getting bullied myself and knew how bad it felt.
I haven't known any other AS people during my school years...not that bullying just takes place in school...but it's one of the most likely places.

Actually I'm pleased to say I didn't. In high school there was a quite severe autie/aspie (I would say autistic, but she could speak and occasionally socialise somewhat, but she had serious problems staying in the "real world") I didn't know anything about autism back then but I befriended her, not really understanding that we were the same. She was just more severe than me.

No.

But there was a guy at my work that may have had aspergers, and he was a real pain in the arse, he kept hitting on all the girls.

I never even met another HFA/aspie before, tho if I did I would try to befriend him no matter what anyone else thought, hell I probably could help him navigate the social scene a bit, I am no great social person, but do alright enough.

Not a "more severe aspie", but all the same I regret my behavior towards one person. I was very self-hating, and she reminded me of everything about myself that I hated and was bullied for, so I pushed her away. Not so much to fit in with NTs, but because I hated myself and therefore hated anyone who reminded me of myself. I behaved horribly to her sometimes, although not as horribly as others (I never intentionally set out to bully her, I just got angry at her a lot -- I did let her come over to my house though).

I am ashamed to admit that in my three years at a Catholic high school, I would join others in intensively picking on other people (there were no other aspies AFAIK). Back then I was desperate to "fit in" and I guess I wanted to distance myself from the unpopular people - an effort that proved to be futile. I even opted not to ask a girl out that I liked and I think liked me too, because she was often the target of verbal bullying and I figured it would lead to me getting more of it. But by the time I left for public school at the end of my junior year, I realized that this was not the way to go, and I simply opted to mingle with the people I got along reasonably well with, and avoid the jerks.

No.

Am have never made fun of anyone,and never related to humans to care about respect from them.
Am would not make fun of anyone because a human is a human-are all made from the same stuff so that would be making fun of self.

when I was about 8 I picked on a girl who was fat - my friends at the time said she was fat and horrible (this poor little 5 year old girl) and I believed them so I was horrible to her face instead of just behind her back like the others were - I think they were surprised that I was horrible to her, but I believed what they said and felt I should act accordingly. I feel really bad about it now.

I wouldn't do dat anyway.

I prefer to make fun of myself, as there's no real risk involved. (I haven't been in any fights with myself.... yet ) No, let's be serious here. It's not to "fit in" so much as it is a defense mechanism. Should I choose to be upset over life, or laugh and move on? (tough choice eh?) Not that it's always easy, we're only human after all. I do my best to comfort others when it's needed, but I also certainly embrace humor when the opportunity arises. Oh, and there's always this stupid, macho misconception amongst some people that if a guy avoids insulting others it's because he fears them. In my case, I try to avoid doing so simply out of respect for others' feelings. I mean, who would've thought.. some guys have a sense of empathy after all. ;p

Bottom line - No, I would not intentionally insult anyone. I stick up for those being bullied. When I perceive that someone may be sensitive - which is probably a common trait amongst aspies - I will respect their disposition and accommodate to their personality as best I can. It should be understood that none of us are perfect - errors in judgment will happen, but what's most important is that an offender learns from his or her mistakes, growing and improving as a mature adult.

I have never met another aspie, so no.