What puts people off you?

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Ohh, it's either I talk too much or not enough. I'm content to just sitting by myself and watching the world around me, but not participating in it. If you don't participate, then you're just a ghost. It's like I'm in the world, but not of the world. Isn't that a Biblical quote? I get grumpy over small changes, tiny changes. Like not enough water in the water pitcher in the morning. Even though, it's easy enough to just refill it, it can throw my day. This is one reason Barrack Obama freaks me out. He keeps wanting to change everything. If he makes everything better, what am I gonna complain about?

Utopia is impossible. There will always be something to complain about.

TheyHEY think that I think I'm perfect, while I can't understand why they wouldn't want to be.

TheyHEY say that I am preaching when I am trying to genuinely help out with the knowledge and experience I have about their particular inquiry or dilemma.

Another is that I refuse to relate to others (even those I like) in group situations, unless I feel really, really good about my role there.

And just about all of the things everyone else mentioned.

NT's have to learn to close their eyes and LISTEN to what you say. And to do that they have to understand about aspergers. And to do that they have to know that you have aspergers.

NT's do make most judgments from body language. But they can be educated.

At another level you are soo smart! NT's have to learn that you are not trying to put them down. They have to know what else makes you tick: justice, kindness etc. And that requires EDUCATION

nanna, we live in the era when people are taught to deduct more and more about others through looking at body language and distrusting what they hear.

Overall, I seem to be well-liked by people, but they tend not to get too close to me. I think it's mainly because they don't think they have much in common with me, and they are probably right. Also they know I am not the go-to person for sympathy, since I don't know how to do that. That probably puts up a barrier, too.

Also, I have the habit of spouting off opinions that don't go with the norm, and this can scare off strangers. Like my attitude about babies and children - I happen to find them boring (although I've met a couple I actually liked in the past year), and people don't understand this. They think I hate kids or something, when I just don't care to be around them. I mean, it's nothing personal. Needless to say, I have very few parents as friends. And I'm in the age range where most people have had kids, if they are going to. My friends who are my age tend to have never had them at all.

-J.

People complain I'm too intense. I can only assume that means I scare people off because of my lack of small talk.

People at my school avoid me because they take me for a creepy type of eccentric.
I don't talk much and even if I did, it would sound as though I am shouting.

My problem is - I'M TOO SMART! Sorry if that sounds awful, and believe me it even sounds awful to me, but really in my case it's quite true, but also quite untrue at the same time. I'll explain...

Now please don't mistake this for intellectual snobbery, on the contrary I am not like that, in fact I'm very humble and have always played down my achievements (in my opinion that's as it should be) - no, it's how others see me. I feel that some are intimidated by my learning, when they really shouldn't be. Maybe it's my formal approach. I don't know.

As a child, true to the text book, other kids thought me a little professor. I was fascinated by general knowledge and science. Often my older brothers friends would tell me to ask them a question, it was a novelty for them for a while. I on the other hand felt embarassed. It earned me the nickname of 'professor' and that stayed with me all through primary school and until I left secondary school at 18!

In school I had one good friend I could count on, but we grew apart. I went to College he went to a job, stayed friends for a while but grew apart. At College I didn't consider anyone my particular friend - they were more like acquaintances, and sure we had fun at the time, but I feel no reason to look them up - because they were not like me and once again we've grown apart.

I just don't make friends easily. I'm a decent good living guy, some people might even think me handsome. I wouldn't compromise a thing or ever for a moment stop being me.

Maybe I should try and find an Aspie friend. That would be interesting, fascinating and supportive!

Doing stupid, clumsy stuff. Otherwise, I'm generally liked.