Fear of the phone?

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I hate the phone. I feel it's an invasion of my privacy. I use it only to pass on important information to someone and I keep it short and sweet. I don't understand how people can talk on the phone for hours. It's the same as if someone just dropped in on you unexpected and you have to stop what you're doing to talk to them. I especially hate phone calls from people who only call you when they are drunk and who start out by telling you how much they love you. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

I havent spoken on the phone for over 5 years.. I can safely say I have a fear of phones. Actually I cant say i havent spoken on a phone in 5 years i got forced onto the phone when I wanted my mum to ring the phone line to activate my credit cards and they had to ask her to pass the phone to me so i can give permission for her to do it but that wasnt so bad like all i could do was react and didnt have to time to think it over and develop my fear.

Yes, I especially hate calling somewhere more so than receiving a call.

My family try and get me to use the phone and when forced I will but I hate it. I've been know to jot things down like a script before hand too. ^^

I can't stand it either. My mom does the same thing, trying to make me make a call when I don't want to.

I hate phone conversations too. The worst is the moment of hanging up -- I never know how to end the conversation. However I end it I feel dumb.

Avoid & dislike using phone-calling & being called. The ring of phone always startles me, makes my heart leap, and feels intrusive/invasive. It is handy for quick/urgent exchange of up-to-date information, since I'm low-tech & just have a landline (no cell, no pda).

If I'm going to do it, though, I take notes beforehand-not word for word (but that could work for some people, in some cases). List of possible directions in which the conversation could go, things I need to make sure not to forget/leave out. To convey all the info. I intended to communicate-or collect all the info. I needed from the other person.

I also dislike the phone, but I'm getting better at it. I don't have a script but usually I like to "mentally prepare" myself to be able to know what I can expect and know what I should answer in certain situations. I also need to phone in a quiet place cause the slightest noise distracts me from the conversation.

The sound of the phone ringing still stresses me though.

It took me 25 years to get to the point where I can use the phone without cringing.

When I was in Giant Steps using the phone (as in the made-up exercise phone) was always my weakest area. I used to never answer it as a child. Now I won't say I'm afraid of it, but if it rings I usually let my mother answer. It's probably for her anyway.

I too detest the phone....(even though I once had a job as a switchboard operator..and was good at it...it was somehow different...maybe it was a combination of the headset and routine...)

because I detest the phone so much, often when I am in a phone conversation with someone I don't know, I come off as irritable...

I don't use it.

I only answer it when I get the "secret ring".

I was forced to use it, then I was half-taught to use it, now I can use it. Incidentally, I had to use it to get an appointment because of possible ASD... my thoughts went along the lines 'what the heck? Why am I forced to call lots of high ranking strangers when I'm suspected to be autistic?'

Oh well, I figured out how to successfully use the phone. Not to say it always works as well, but the quota is good.

What I always do is this:

1. think about what I want to say before picking up the phone, take my time, get the number and write it down
2. then write down exactly what I want to say, mostly in half-sentences
3. then repeat what I have to say, learn it a bit by heart
4. then make the call, expect to hear a voice answering on the other end and hope I won't hear the busy signal, because I imagined the voice and the buy signal would get me even more anxious
5. not feel embarrassed by anything ridiculous I say but didn't plan on saying

6. the more calls done, no matter if they were good or downright horrible, the easier it becomes to make a call, but wonders are still unlikely to occur: I still hate calls and get all angst-y about picking up the phone.

I used to really fear talking on the phone but don't mind it now.

I still have a fear of talking on the phone because I've hate the way I sound when I talk. Like I have this angry and unfriendly tone that does'nt sound too good when talking to someone and it sounds worse on the phone.

I also hate calling someone especially when it's important because I get intimidated and fumble my words alot. Every single time I end the phone convo my mind goes through that "you should've said this or you should've said that instead" kind of thinking and I always feel stupid for it.

i fear answering phone for anymoys reasons