i dated an aspie guy, 6 months l8r im an aspie do i tel?

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Ok so 6 months ago i was in a long distance realtionship with a guy with aspgers i didnt get what it was at the time but over time it really showed it ugly side , but we still got on and everything. I fell in love and he broke up bcoz he thought we wanted diffrent things. it took me 6 months to get over him and last week ive been dignosed with it to.

i wonder if i shud tell him? a part of me thinks he start pointing out all my bad aspie habbits that might have ruined the realtionship..or shud i just carry on learning mor bout it without him ?

do you still talk with him?

on and off online

are you sure you caught it off him?

i dont know , we were in a serious realtionship and recently over the phone he's sed to me that if i lived where in the same place as him and wanted the same things then we might still be going out. Its complicated but like his temper really hurt sometimes..things i didnt understand. I dont think i want him back bcoz sometimes he didnt treat me right, i just wunder if i owe it him to tell him, maybe, when we went out he knew i had an anxiety disorder that i was getting over. I over anylise where i went wrong , was it me a lot when it comes to me and boys. i wundered maybe hes been over anylising it too. (i doubt it tho)

and no i dont think i caught it off him. I was born like this, i make sense why i was bullyed in schol and other things.

"I fell in love and he broke up bcoz he thought we wanted diffrent things. it took me 6 months to get over him and last week I've been dignosed with it to."

How long did the relationship last before breaking up?

"A part of me thinks he'll start pointing out all my bad aspie habbits that might have ruined the realtionship."

If this is true and not simply an irrational fear, then i would stay away from him, do you really want to be with a guy who is going to place all the blame in a relationship on you? Certainly you both contributed to the factors that caused your breakup, no relationship breaks up solely due to the behaviors of one person.

"or shud i just carry on learning mor bout it without him ?"

I don't think anyone on WP can give you a reliable answer to this, we are to far distant from the details of your relationship. Also, asking aspies for relationship advice may not be the best way to go, since we are probably as clueless as you in this regard, I know I am. Not to generalize, some aspies may have a good understanding of relationships, but they are in the minority.

My advice would be to ask someone who knows the both of you, or at least the details of the relationship, who can give you an unbiased opinion.

Perhaps I am misunderstanding your motives, what exactly do you plan on achieving by telling him?

Just from how you describe it, this sounds like a very unhealthy relationship. It seems as if you want to tell him about the diagnosis to get him to come back to you. This is just my own interpretation from some of my own past experiences with guys that broke up with me.

Yeah well the whole catching it off him doest make sense. You cant catch AS.

Yeh i was wondering if you thought there would be a chance between you two because you have As as welll...
I think you should tell him however. I think it is worth telling him, that way you might be able to make sense of things.

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