Does anyone else have this problem? (All eyes on you)

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I stand out on purpose. It saves having to worry about why.

I have a tricorn that I used to wear a lot more before that bloody Pirates movie ruined everything.

Yup I think people are sneaking looks at me all of the time, especially in the car.

For whatever reason I think that every single driver on the road is out to get me and/or there is something wrong with my car that everybody but me knows about.

I actually get nervous if there is no one tailgating me because I think that something is falling off of my car or it's smoking underneath or...?

I get this all the time as well, even in places that I'm pretty sure are deserted. Part of it is because I tend to watch people, myself, so I assume everyone else watches me back. But the rest is good old-fashioned social anxiety, which responded to Lexapro. Once I learned what it was, though, it wasn't worth dealing with the side-effects of Lexapro to avoid the anxiety. Knowing it's not "real" helped a lot, though I can't explain why. I still feel nervous, and sometimes I can't stir myself to get up and go get coffee, because someone might say something about it. But at least I know why now.

I get the feeling of being observed too. I get it at my workplace when walking into the cafeteria (that's why I almost never go there).

I get it when I'm a shopping too. I'm in a bookshop and I'm looking at some book. If there's people nearby, I think they are watching me and judging me by that book. Strange because when I look at them, they seem pretty concentrated in their books too.

Yes. I’m very self conscious.

People always tell me that nobody really cares enough to scrutinize me. Yet I find that I’m always scrutinizing other people if they look slightly odd or different to me. Not in a negative way, I just notice people who appear different from the norm.

It's weird. Since I have a bad habit of staring I always worry that everyone else is the same way. I know I look odd to other people. I'm so hypersensitive about everything around me and myself.

I don't think it matters unless you're ready Grannies in the Fannies again.

I know an NT that are like you, it's just anxiety, not particularly an AS trait.

I also have this anxiety about people judging me by my choices in books/music/general interests. I used to hate the questions 'what sort of music do you like?'. It made me squirm - not because I have a bad taste in music, but I was embarrassed about revealing anything about me and also I would tend to forget what I liked, or not be able to describe it well under pressure.

I feel embarrassed when I am interested in anything and for this reason I will never go on about an interest to someone - quite the inverse, I keep them private so have nothing to say. Makes me wonder if I used to have an interest as a young child in something really disgusting and got told off for it so much that now I associate interests with embarrassment. It is getting better though now. I realise that by not revealing my interests I miss meeting people who might share them and never end up with the friends that I really want, but with some nice kind people who have nothing much in common with me.

I also hate an avoid the "what is your favorite music? movie? etc" type of question. I hope of finding people who shares my interests and tastes without having to reveal them first. The following sentence describes me so well that I have to thank you for expressing my exact thoughts in words: