Psychoanalyze me.

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I liked this forum. Then one day I publicly revealed that a shrink who saw me was convinced that I don't have Asperger's, and ever since I feel I've received a different treatment from some of the members of this forum. It's like, they don't see me as a member of the pack any more. As a result of this treatment, I'm not sure I like aspies anymore. Could it be that aspies are not that different from NT's after all? Or could it be that I mistakenly projected too many undeserved positive qualities onto aspies? I really don't know. Please help me understand.

I only saw people treating you different because of insulting things you said.

I do not recall saying insulting things or insulting anyone.

What made me mad is you saying "Real aspies" in the thread about someone not liking to be autistic anymore.

Looked like you were implying he wasn't on the spectrum and I don't like "You don't have AS" people.

Regardless of what you said to the others, I get what you are trying to say. I have seen a few diagnosed Aspies on here as well, that belittle or frown upon people that are not 100% pure Aspies.

The way that I look at it, is that we all have very similar problems and life experiences, or we wouldn't have come here...Aspie or not. Also, I'm sure we can all use and extra friend or support from someone that understands us, again...Aspie or not.

You also were too strict with your beliefs, etc... The DSM IS more flexible than that, and most here DON'T match your ideal.

I havn't read every thread that you posted in, but I've only noticed a pattern of people treating you that way when you seem to be intentionally provoking them. They shouldn't use your un-dxed status to retaliate, but that's what people do when they get angry or defensive, they hit below the belt. I don't believe that's the core reason they fight with you, they just know how to use it against you.

Personally I have no problem with whatever you are or are not. I don't care if you're formally diagnosed, self diagnosed, mis-diagnosed, NT or whetever else you could be accused of. Anyone has the right to participate. But yesterday I made it clear how annoyed I was that you intentionally hijacked that kid's thread, apparently in anger. I won't apologise for that, it was your behavior I was critisizing, not your aspie status.

Making your own thread to talk about this and how it makes you feel is a step in the right direction and what you should have done to begin with, instead of being disruptive in someone else's. I don't dislike you, but if you don't like negative reactions from people, you need to learn better ways to vent your frustrations.

I have not made any observations on your interactions with other members so I cannot directly answer your questions.

I like to think that diagnosis or lack thereof doesn't matter here. I don't pay attention to it unless someone brings it up. If someone says they have something other than an ASD, I might think it's mildly interesting, but I don't really care. I have no idea how many other people think that way.

I regret saying what I said in the other thread. It's clear that I vented my anger the wrong way.

Most people here are probably guilty of that at one time or another.

NT's and aspies do have stuff in common but the problem is, not if people keep thinking that because we all have the same diagnosis that we are all the same. NT's are not all nice good people and they aren't all evil bad people. The same for those on the autistic spectrum. Not all are nice, not all are mean and violent.

Maybe you are and maybe you aren't. I may have misunderstood what you meant in another topic and you were being sarcastic. You could very well be on the spectrum. Best advice is neurologist. You could have another problem instead or multiple problems.

Being aspie doesn't mean you don't want friends or relationships. There are so many stereotypes that don't really fit with alot of people because these stereotypes pick apart individuality and try to lump all together. Some of the stereotypes like stimming fit alot on the spectrum but it doesn't mean that all do the same stim.