Being Alone

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I have to agree. I have to have some time to be alone and bounce back, even from pleasant socializing.

Get a dog.

They're good companions, but they can't talk. They don't mind quiet time.

No, I still need a few hours of alone time to relax with videogames or a book.

I get lonely to the point of despair if I am entirely without human contact for too long... but there are only one or two people who I enjoy spending time with.

Basically, my mum and my girlfriend are the only people I enjoy being companionable with. I can happily hang out with my girlfriend for days or weeks.

But even with her, I need a break eventually, a time to be alone with my thoughts.

It's strange, but I feel like it's harder to think freely when I'm around anyone. I feel like I have to muffle my thoughts, even though I know logically that no one else can hear them. Only when I'm physically alone do I feel like I can let my thoughts flow freely and my imagination unleash.

So yes, I very much value my quiet alone time. I NEED it. But I also need those few people in my lives with whom I feel comfortable, to avoid absolute isolation and the emptiness that accompanies it.

After I do something that involves interaction with others or I've been in a stimulating environment (shopping, school, etc.) I have always needed time to myself. I don't want ANYTHING in my environment at that point except maybe a computer in front of me. The reason is I need to recharge. Noise and people drain me, fast.

I need to be alone more than most NTs, but I enjoy socializing with other people as well.

Alone again...naturally topic

I will socialize one on one when I do not feel overwhelmed. bu , like many people here on the Spectrum, I prefer to be alone.

That song was a lot happier before I found out what all of the words were

I'm getting used to living on my own and I realised how disconnected I've become. Living/being with someone drains me and realising how alone I am makes me anxious

While dogs are good companions they can't fulfil all an adults needs

It is so good to know that there are other people who live alone. I not only want to be alone most of the time. I have to be alone when the stress of a social situation pushes me into 'over drive' and I start shutting down. But I like having relationships too, mostly one-on-one with a person who doesn't have to talk all the time. I just can't follow someone who talks continuously. The words morph into noise, irritating noise, and I try not to be rude but my distress is apparent. And I love animals. Cats in particular. Give me a cat or two and I'm just fine in my house for days on end. I know this isn't normal. When I travel on business (as I do a lot these days), I pick a hotel away from anyone I might be working with, so I don't have to deal with meeting someone in the lobby or the restaurants and getting into small-talk conversations when all I want after a day of work is to isolate, recharge, get ready for tomorrow. How can I expect NTs to understand this? How can I expect friends to understand my need for solitude? Well, a very few do. I get more and more isolated.

I can adapt pretty well but I'm still in this - alien body. All these years, and I still don't know what goes on in groups of say six people at a pizza parlor, trying to follow the conversations, or at a business meeting when I want to something that no one at the table would think relevant but me. That's another reason I want to be alone. No more humiliatiion. No more.

for me, yes and no o.O

id say its important that i have my space or the option of having my own space readily avalible to me but i need to socialise with people too, sometimes it can be hard to find a balance and sometimes its hard for other people to understand that its nothing to do with them (some will take it personally)

I need alone time to recover from social situations. I need it for my various interests. I need it to get things done. I need it for my mental health. I need it so I can think clearly. Those are a few good reasons... I suspect I will never live together with someone. The importance of alone time revealed itself fully after a failed relationship.



For me, no. It really takes complete solitude.

Last edited by stjarna on 04 May 2008, 7:42 pm, edited 2 times in total.

Difficult question. A lot of AS have need to be alone and be around people at the same time.
Sometimes I need to be alone, whether to overcome overstimulation, anger, or just to be alone. Much of the time I want to be alone and want to be around people.
I don't like to be touched by a crave to be touched.

I require time to myself every once in a while but if I'm alone for too long, I dwell on not having a girlfriend to enjoy my time alone with and get depressed.

I could do company with a friend I could freely talk to for quite a while before making my excuses. With someone in which conversation quickly dries up or just can't start, my stamina's poor.
However, the most socially exhausting thing is being amongst multiple people. I have a character to keep within all of them, and searching for words can be humongously difficult, especially if they'd have such a contrast as being my parents, for which my character has been very subdued for such a long time, and a very close friend, to whom I'd pour many things into. I'm fairly decent with new people and with them have some social libertinage, but after a short time in these situations I generally would much like to have several hours alone afterwards.