Do you have a low tolerance for people? Do I?

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I give everyone a chance.

If I like someone I give the person more leniency.

If the person makes a huge error and doesn't apologize and keeps repeating it, I don't feel like speaking to the person anymore

If the person keeps making minor rude errors and I don't see the person apologizing and just expects me to still be around...hah it's not going to happen.

Respect is something that is given and earned.

Numbskull.


That is all that ought to be said on this matter, but I will say more:


What the heck are you getting all worked up about a silly thing like birthdays for? I mean why the heck should anyone else bother to record down a silly number for the number of times the Earth has flown around the sun since you first popped into the world? What relevance does that have to ANYTHING?!

It is a stupid thing to bother with, and a stupider thing to lose a friend over.


Admittedly... I am rather biased.
My main reason for not doing birthdays is that what used to be mine is now the anniversary of the day I gave permission for my only real friend and mentor to be euthanised. That sorta thing can sorta sour a day.

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I'm much more upset about being lied to. I was going to make it a joke until he acted mad at me for calling him out on it. I simply said "guess what? you forgot..." and he acts all pissed off at me and starts lying about how I never gave him a chance. But that's his personality, do something extremely rude and then make himself a martyr with his lies. I do believe that would make him a numbskull since he was willing to be nasty to me on MY birthday to cover his own butt. But I welcome everyone's opinion.

having a bad friend is worse that having no friend

That's the heart of it really. I can't tolerate people lying to me. When this happened a few days ago it was just deja vous of the past, being lied to by this person. For example, him asking me if he could borrow gas money, and then me catching him at the mall buying a video game, and never paying me back. And being lied to is just the worst thing because you'll never know when to trust this person. I guess I had hoped that it was something he'd mature out of, but obviously he can't. I say can't because I think he probably has some psychological issue. I just know I'm fed up with it. I can't tolerate people lying to me anymore, period.

And gee thanks Soticoto, I'm a numbskull and a pillock eh? Well, you yourself just said you try to make up to your friend for not doing the birthday thing so that is a bit contradictory. And besides why is it so horrible that I like a little acknowledgment from a friend? Everyone has something they enjoy, this being my thing. So if someone is my friend and they know this is my thing I don't think it's too much to ask for them to come through, and not end up trying to be a jacka** by starting a whole argument full of lies. But anyways, this thread is done in my opinion. It's over, done with, time to move on.

Yes. Espicaly stupid people. "What's a meerkat?" Me: Go read a book, moron. "What is it like to have AS?" Me: How should I know. I've been this way since birth so I can't compare it with being normal. People see paint dabs on my clothes and ask "Do you paint?" No, I just rub it on my clothes. Go get some sence people!

I appear to be one of very few people here who doesn't think that forgetting someone's birthday is that big a deal. Some people are just rubbish at that kind of thing, like some people are perpetually late for everything and some people can't keep secrets. To this day, I don't think my dad can remember the correct date for my birthday more than one time out of three - it doesn't mean he doesn't care, he's just seriously rubbish at remembering dates. Decide whether or not you can live with it. If you're someone who needs everyone to be discreet, organised with dates and endlessly punctual, then don't stay friends with people who aren't. But they don't do it to piss you off - they do it because everyone has faults. If you lay in to them for this kind of fault, they won't change - you'll just end up alienating them, and yes they may well jump into excuses and justifications. I have learned this from long hard experience. I've also been on the receiving end when someone's been furious that I never make the effort to get in touch, or I leave social situations earlier than expected. I may apologise for that, but I'm unlikely to change it.

My mother was throwing things at me in a fit of rage the other day, and brought up "not making a card for her on mothers day" .. I didn't think people cared about cards, they just get biffed in the end anyway.

Well, since you said he sounds like a pillock too I figured you were calling us both pillocks. I do understand what you're saying, there are people out there that aren't good with remembering things and I could accept that. I think maybe I went over the edge with him is that he is a liar, and we've fought over that too many times. I'm almost surprised that I've forgiven him for his never-ending lies. And it's funny because he has said things recently like "I know I used to do stupid things and I'm sorry" as if he was apologizing for lying but never actually admitted it either. So I was willing to accept the apology and move on. But when that whole incident happened where he tried turning himself into some victim, just like he has done in the past when I've caught him lying, as if I was lashing out at him when I really didn't until he started lying, then I just felt like enough is enough. In a way I almost feel relieved that he's out of my life, because in all honesty there more I think about it the more I never really did trust him. And you just can't base a friendship off that. Little lies turn into big doubts in my mind, and I don't like being played for a fool. I'm a little sad that I now am back to square one in a sense because I did enjoy talking to him, but I try to think of it as everything happening for a reason. Not really sure if I do believe that anymore but sometimes good comes from something that might seem bad at the time. Ok now I'm going off on another tangent. Philosophy 101 haha.

I'm honest to a fault. I guess it's one more thing in the world I can't relate to...dishonest people, and the world is so full of them it disgusts me. That's the area where my low tolerance comes into play. Lying, manipulative, dishonest people are as low as it gets in my eyes. Just the fact that I called someone my friend that fits into any of those categories makes me angry at myself for allowing it. I am wondering how I could be so desperate....*shudders*