Do others misread your emotions?

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This might be how YOU see it. What they see is different. I have the same problem everyday. People ask me what the problem is, what I am angry about. Girlfriends always "accuse" me of being grumpy or cranky or some other cutesy name. Some have broke up with me saying I am always angry. However to ME, it is minor. I see it as normal behavior when others have called it rageful. Even when I feel OK or not too bad. Sure I have gotten angry, very much so. but usually when I am just normal people think I am angry.

Yeah, everyday at work, I have to be like "NO, I'm not upset!"

Yes i feel missunderstanding my emotions work completely other than non-autistic so they think im sad if im quiet or im lazy wich is also not treu its realy anoying

People misinterpret my intentions more than my emotions.
When people misinterpret my emotions, their interpretations are usually that I'm sad when I'm emotionless, and that I'm angry and/or "freaking out" when I respond to them with loud enthusiasm and a different opinion.

Not a new problem here. People tend to think I’m upset or depressed just by my facial expression when in fact, the opposite is true.

The ironic thing is I knew a guy that was autistc dxed, and I thought his emotions were easier to read than other peoples.

I get asked "What's wrong?" a lot when nothing is wrong at all.

Yeah, I've been misread a lot too.

Also, in 10th grade, I would often when walking through the halls, run my hand along the walls and lockers and stuff, something I'd always done up to then. Except by then I'd gotten an IEP, so the director of special services would go up to me and make me stand still, to "calm down", while ignoring that I said I was fine, and ignoring my questions asking why she thought I needed to calm down. I had forgotten this until the March IEP meeting, when she brought this up, though of course to her it was totally obvious that I was STRESSED OUT at these times - even though usually I was writing poems, that got interrupted and forgotten during these times.

BTW, as far as having things misinterpreted - why is it that in an animation class, where students often go under the desk to work, to relax, to listen to music, to get away from the fluorescent lights, it is normal for an art student to go under a desk and unwind or even sleep, but when an autistic art student does it it gets seen as pathalogical, and suddenly you have the nurse and the director of special ed touching you and talking at you and then noting that you are "especially sensitive to touch at this time".

Seriously WTF! Darn right I'm sensitive to touch when people intrude on my space without bothering to even ask me if anything's wrong, whilst ignoring the other students who are also under desks or on the floor!

In school people always think I'm upset when I'm perfectly fine. Teachers always think I'm angry when I'm not as well. I get really sick of teachers asking me what's wrong or if I need time out. The only person who can correctly recognise my emotions is my best friend who also has AS. Often he tells me how I'm feeling when I can't explain it.

I often have people asking me what's wrong or why i'm angry.
This at moments when i'm just totally focussed on something or sunk away deeply into thought.
It doesn't make much sence to me, i'm glad not everyone thinks this.

I tend to have strong emotional reactions that pass quickly.

This was more common when I was younger, less so now precisely because it is not socially acceptable (although privately I sometimes just go ahead and let loose!)

NT's have a hard time with this, and seem to expect any strong emotion to linger on and on.

They continue to be upset and look wary of me long after I have already regained my composure.

It's harder for me to calmly, verbally work through my emotions, easier just to "go off." You know, let off steam very quickly all at once and be done with it.

NT's hate that. And I do understand why. I would like to learn better coping skills, but the ones that work for NT's just do not work as well for me.

I also used to be told all the time I don't smile, I look too serious, I look unhappy, even when I was just fine.

What?! I would think, so I'm supposed to walk around with a stupid grin on my face all the time?

Now I understand and accept it more: NT's are Master's of Faking It. Acting nice and polite even when if they have just finished trashing you privately.

I can do that too, but I find it very disturbing. Yet this is what is considered normal. What a load of crap.

Lots of people at Uni keep on thinking that I'm angry or sad even though nothing bad happened to me, I'm basically just thinking my own things or focused on a task.

I hate it how they judge people so much by body language and sense of humour.

And yes, LOTS of NTs (at least the ones at Uni) can fake their emotions and facial expressions, and then gossip about you behind your back.

My husband does sometimes. I don't know if it's me or him. Somtimes he thinks I'm upset when I'm not. He used to bug me all the time about it but he cut back.

At my old job in Montana, my boss kept bugging me about if I am okay. Then she left me alone.

I have a blank expression most of the time and it's hard for me to crack a smile. The upside of that though is at my age when I would likely have some, I don't have any wrinkles, my skin is smooth as a babies bum, except for tiny ones under my eyes which aren't that easy to see. I guess being autistic has its bonuses.

All the time. The worst part is I don't even know what my face is doing.

I just tell people I'm not angry, it's just the way I look, or that I appear angry when I have a headache (which is true, and I get headaches). I also thought I never had meltdowns, but then I realized I do have them; I just don't express them. I merely excuse myself and them find a quiet place, it being dark and cold helps too. Meltdowns don't even have an emotional response from me, I just want some quiet because my brain is confused and my ears are annoyed.

Sometimes I hide my emotions very well, and sometimes I express emotions I don't have. It always made me doubt whether the feelings I feel are my true feelings, or if my mind is shielding me from something, and always wondered if I'm repressing stuff, and storing it up for later. But now I suspect that I just prefer logic.